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Attracted to a married man?

My colleague is married with 2 boys and I can't stop seeking his attention. He said he liked me too and also once mentioned that he would love to sleep with me. Ofcourse he loves his wife and I don't want to break that .

I am married myself and (I believe ) I love my husband but why am I going through this? Should I talk to a therapist?

I enjoy seeing him in the morning, I also like to talk to him, we go for coffee sometimes. He does not try to get intimate or touch me ever.

I look forward to the office since he is there.

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  • Anonymous
    6 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    It's normal but you have to rethink your desires and your conversation with this man. My honest advice is keep your distance. Don't you dare cross that line or you'll hurt people you love. On top of that, think of how you would feel at work knowing you can't really have him. So, don't be a fool.

  • Denise
    Lv 5
    6 years ago

    The problem here is that your husband isn't giving you the attention. Plus let's face it--we all get a little tempted here and there. But I say don't act on your temptations. He has nothing to offer you other than sex and an uncomfortable work situation once you guys have to break it off or get caught. If you don't care, then do you. But he's made it clear, all he wants to do is sleep with you. Isn't offering anything else. We all fantasize but if you act on your temptation there may be consequences that you nor him are prepared to face. Are they worth it?? Watch the movie Temptation by Tyler Perry.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    Therapy? Are you joking? You don't need therapy for liking someone. It doesn't work anyway - why confide your innermost thoughts to a stranger? You may as well speak to someone in a bar. You have some discipline and tell yourself no, or you have an affair. End of.

  • 6 years ago

    You love your husband and you are attracted to another man and you love seeing him.

    How do you think your husband would feel about this when he reads this post?

    You're one step to an emotional affair, which is cheating.

  • 6 years ago

    It's easy to talk to him since he's so available. It's also easy to find him interesting since you only see him in a good light. It's also easy to fall for coworkers.

  • BAM
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    Yes, see a therapist and stop interacting with him. You are putting two marriages at high risk and threatening to break families apart because of your selfishness.

  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    You need to discuss this with your husband immediately. It's only fair that he knows.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    It's just lust. If you were not in love with husband then maybe you could be falling in love, but just be careful. Maybe avoid him. It could only ruin your life acting on this lust you feel..is that worth it?

  • 6 years ago

    Just don't. The thrill is not worth the heartbreaks.

  • 6 years ago

    Everybody has such feelings.

    But, ppl keep their feeling inside only, not to develope in to cheat bc we need to keep family.

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