being used for sex and no relationship?

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I wanna get your opinion on this: I've been dating this guy I met on ok cupid for a see and a day. I just dumped him. (he works at the golf course) we talked for the first time on ok cupid and he immediately wanted to have sex with me. I said i wanted to date first. He said but i want you bad so i gave in and the first date was just sex. Then he messaged me in the morning for sex. So we had sex at my house and he left shortly after cause i had to work. Then he messaged me Thursday and said babe I'll take you on a date. Then i left Thursday evening and he messaged me saying to get a hotel room. I said I thought we were dating tonight. He said i don't have time. But stayed from eight thirty pm till ten thirty pm. We had sex in the room and cuddled for a hour with almost no talking and then he got dressed and left. Right before he left he said your probably mad I'm not spending the night with you. I wanted to say yes but said no. Then this week he's been too tired for the last three days to take me out. Today i didn't get one txt from him. Is he just using me for sex or what? I broke up with him so its done but i wanted some opinions on this.

? · Accepted Answer

1) yes he was just using you for sex.

2)That is one of those things where you need to wait. If you give him sex that early on, the guy is not going to respect you.

3) No offense, but you kind of did it to yourself. You rolled over and croaked, figuratively speaking. You gave him sex again and again.

When he message you and said he wanted to get a hotel room, you should've told him to go **** himself. And when hewanted to hook up the first day, you should've also told him no. In fact, once he even said that you should have completely cut him out of your life. Because that point, any rational intelligent person would have realized that he did not actually want a relationship with you.

4) ultimately, the problem is this. He is too attractive for you. He's out of your league. Because of this, you're not thinking straight, you would do anything to keep him around. You need to get self-respect and go for a guy in your league. Even if you don't find him as attractive, it's just more healthy.

Hot guys out of your league? They almost never committed to begin with, and they especially don't commit to you when you have sex with them too early. And when the guy is hot, it is also extremely hard for you to have the self-control to wait. So it's like a double whammy in favor of "you staying single".

Yuri · Answer

Oh come on we all know he was using you for sex. I'm not trying to be rude. But I can bet that even you know that he was using you. All I hope is that you used protection and I'm glad that you broke up with him.

CDS2012 · Answer

You didn't break up with him because he was never with you. You settled and fell for his game because you need the attention. You are better than that. Hopefully you will be smarter the next time.

Nice Guy · Answer

Yes.  Confirmed.  He was using you as his hose beast.

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