Is the fact that I am no longer in love enough to end a marriage?

If you want to end the marriage, that is up to you. Not much of a future to anticipate, spending a life with someone you have no strong feelings for. Perhaps marriage counseling would help. Clearly you did have strong feelings for him at one time.

Fix the marriage or end it. Don't just tread water hoping something will change on its own. Hold off marrying again until you are beyond your mid 20s, and more emotionally mature. Youth and immaturity can make folks fickle.

traditional marriages work and they are the ones where neither person ever loved each other, and the reason that they work is because they have things in common and do common things together fairly often, they work together, they have plans together of where their life should go, they have children together, they are close knit with his and her parents so they have joined a family and not just one person, and there are tough patches in a life where people don't sleep together, don't have sex for years, yet the marriage lasts. So think back, why did you marry him? Surely he has some good qualities. Well focus on his good qualities. For years and years women have faked orgasm, smiled at men to pretend they care, and were accepted by the world as a woman who belonged, and they got jobs because they were married, etc. So if you like your lifestyle, no matter how boring, you'll see a therapist to figure out how you can get back those old feelings. You know, depending on your age, menopause plays tricks with everyone and both people run for the door when they could have grown old together as good friends, still caring about each other and liking each other. Love turns to like and toleration but that doesn't mean a marriage has to end. Take a more mature approach to the problem and stay.

Man, gotta say, I feel really sorry for your husband. I know what ever he put you through must not have been easy either, so I'm not picking sides. Just to have someone you love and expected to grow old with drift away has got to hurt.

Apparently you've talked about this and it doesn't change the situation, so looks a divorce is necessary. No easy way to do this, just have to tell him the best way you know how.

Love is more an action than an emotion.

I'm guessing you feel nothing towards your husband because you have a whole lot of resentment as a nice big buffer between the two of you, and you feel very justified in your resentments - in fact, you rehearse them daily, do you not?

The time he did ____.

The time he said ____,

The time he promised ____ and didn't do it.

The time he forgot _____.

Over and over your list of grievances runs through your mind - you are three quarters mad at him before he ever steps through the door at night, aren't you? No wonder you don't feel any love, there isn't any room for it.

If you want things to be different, check out this book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Proper-Care-Feeding-Husb...

It helped me. A lot.

Yes, it is. You don't love him, leave and divorce. That is the best thing. The longer you stay the more painful it will be for him. You have been honest with him about your feelings, lots leave without explanation causing more pain. You will both get over this, start divorce proceedings today and both of you can start to live again.

Of course it is. And why does he 'deserve much more' if he 'put you through a lot'?

Your marriage is broken. Your options are to fix it, end it or continue to be miserable. The last one doesn't sound like a very good choice.

You need professional help, you married for better or worse, for richer or poorer in sickness and in health when you took vows, rather then seeking marriage counseling you're making him suffer due to your selfishness and %100 percent correct this is unfair either split-up or file for divorce.

Good Luck

i honestly view it as no different than being "bf gf" with someone and ending it because the spark's no longer there. then again im not christian, and i dont know if you have kids. BUT growing up in a household where the parents "stayed together for the kids", it wasnt fun at all.

Your mind is very much disturb and many thoughts are going in your mind at a time .

Your realtionship can me clear n cool just you have to make eachother understand , above all you say he loves you a lot .

i think your mind is disturb and you should take some rest or go to your mom place and think what is that which is disturbing you so much that you can think of leaving alone .

Disturb mind cant take a wide decision , so to go on right way first be relax and think what will be the under step what you are taking .Please give some idea hat is going in your mind so that we give right advice to you as its your life we cant advice anything without knowing your mind .For more you can write me at manavmundhra@ymail.com

sometime emotions are end when someone hurts you,try to figure out the cause dear before taking any decision,try to speak to him,its ok about couch as of now but try to understand once again start afresh take a chance,why to spoil relationship when there is nothing so wrong,all the best.