I've lost my self-control... How do I regain it?

you've probably heard this before, but count to 10 - you've heard it, because it works.. when you get angry, force yourself to breathe in slow and deep for 10 breaths.. slow breathing relaxes the brain, and reduces stress..it also gives you a chance to think about what to say, and what NOT to say..

When you are angry, try to think about the big picture - someone does something that aggravates you, won't matter one bit really tomorrow.. it isn't worth getting upset about..

When REALLY angry, go into your room and pound your fists into the mattress , or go for a long run - these reduce stress..

Lastly, it helps to remember that we are all trying to do our best, and that we need to be kind towards one another, and set a good example.

I tried all the advice. It seems like I have to explode and I do. Counting to 10 or walking away does not work.Anxiety comes into play here. Nothing mental.Talking to a person trained in this is them making money. Advice goes out the window. Maybe its how God made us and we have to deal with it. I hate losing my temper but i I dont give into it I will explode. Then its over. I think everyone has a breaking point. Not lonely, not grumpy and well liked. Anymore advice?

it sounds like your experiencing emotional stress. It would be a good idea to talk to people when you are calm. Please use some coping skills, such as taking deep breaths. When you are starting to feel angry, step away from the situation, let the person know that you are getting angry and need space. after you have calm down, please use the "I feel" message when talking your feelings out with that particular person. Don't let your anger bottle up because it just gets things worse, to the point of exploding; try to problem solve in a positive way. Always think of how you would like others to speak to you. Treat others like you want to be treated. If things don't get better, you might want to take an anger management class offered in your community.

You need to remind yourself that losing your temper over these things does absolutly nothing beneficial for your life. In fact it will push people away and make you lonely and grumpy.