It is too late?

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For years, I have been trying to get my husband to communicate with me more and to show me more attention, and generally open up more to me. He didn't really want to just hang out with me, we would have to be doing some sort of activity like going out or playing video games or something. He switched jobs and ended up working 2nd shift and I worked 1st, so we barely saw one another. I would text him throughout the day to see how he was, and I rarely heard back from him. He would get irritated quickly and almost as if didn't want to hear my mouth. He would go out to lunch with his friends and talk to his friends online but was disconnected from me.. If I did something to upset him, he wouldn't tell me, he would just be very short with me and I would have to deal with this tension for as long as it took for me to get him to open up. This went on for like 2 years. I gradually got used to him being this way, and I learned to entertain myself and find things to do. Present day, he wants to do all those things that I needed from him before but now..I don't want it. I've kind of moved on emotionally and no longer want him to do the things I once wanted. What does this mean? Thank you.

Orange Rhododendron · Accepted Answer

cuz your brain and your heart have this tendency to move on without you realizing. it's like, they sensed some pain in you, and they helped you to blocked it from damaging you further. you learn to entertain yourself cuz stuck in this situation while waiting for him is pointless, and you know it's pointless. that's how you should treat yourself. life sometime has a funny to get back at us in a weird way, like he won't do the things you want before, but he changed right now, and you don't feel the same anymore. once again, just go with the flow, probably there's something makes him changed? he did something wrong behind you, or he realize life is too short for him and he will vanish from earth? some people tend to change when their life cut short, say, for illness. it happens, so do find out. but if you're ok with it, just appreciate for what he did to you know, be happy. it's important, after all, you know how to take care of your heart and yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe he's stressed? My opinion, sit him down when you both have plenty of time spare, and tell him how you feel! If he truly loves you he will try a lot harder to make you feel better etc I promise. Sometimes a nice long talk is all it takes, and it is not too late, good luck :)

. · Answer

Do things with him, or end the marriage. He finally wants to do stuff with you. Better late than never. You may also try marriage counseling and see if there's any relationship left to salvage, or if you've become just a roommate (in your mind) and not a wife (because of his treatment of you in the past).

No point in staying together if you're not going to fix things (or at least try to).

Anonymous · Answer

Go to gym

kamini · Answer

I don't think so..

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