If you have been diagnosed with a chronic mental illness, do you believe you are obligated to discuss this with your partner before marriage?

Of course. This is something someone would need to know before agreeing to marry.

Usually, when people consider marrying, they tell each other about their lives, at least to some extent. Something big, well, you'd either have to lie, or leave out a lot of your life, if you never mention it.

But, yes, people should know things that might effect their lives; and people who marry should know each other, so really huge secrets seem wrong.

I think so, not necessarily just marriage, but even just a relationship.

Idk, I think it makes things easier if your partner knows, so they don't take things personally. And this coming from someone who's ex suffered from psychopathy (diagnosed). I know it's a shame for me, but I have no problem admitting to what "happened". Well, it wasn't really a relationship just a strange friendship actually as there was nothing loving in between, besides from my side. I also went out with a guy who had other terminal diseases and I saved him :) but the psychopathic one also has a girlfriend now and he is happy. I think if you are depressed it helps to know. Like, I was depressed for a year and I would keep it hidden, but when I told family and friends I feel that it helped, because it's v hard to see when someone is depressed, I also told my current crush, who used to be really depressed as well, due to a divorce, but it was too late as he moved on with someone else and is now happy with her. Now he is very happy, so that's good in a way, he doesn't have to worry about the ex. I just wish I had known myself, I knew he was depressed, but I didn't know I was. Like in the UK, even at work you must state that you have a mental illness if you do, especially disorders or e.g. learning disabilities. It helps when people deal with you. It seems prejudicial, but if it's someone you love and who loves you back, you are safe, because the person would help you overcome that, rather than use that knowledge against you, you know?

Nothing is exactly chronic, chronic just means that a cure has not been found yet. But OCD is not a chronic disease, you can overcome it, I think. If I overcame depression, and that's really hard, then why not OCD?

Most people with chronic mental illness have no clue by the time of marriage since their parents never had them tested and/or they never felt the need to get tested themselves. So I think if you were to go into this without telling them, it might give you a second chance at life to not have to live with the stigma (and maybe be treated better than you had in the past with the stigma). Obviously YMMV though, you might score large with a compassionate spouse who is understanding and doesn't believe in labels. It's a matter of opinion really.

Absolutely. If your symptoms are under control it is not likely that the news will affect your relationship in any way other than to make it stronger and more open. I love my boyfriend dearly and when he finally told me about his mental disorder, it was honestly a relief, because sometimes he is distant and has low sex drive which I always thought was something about me, so to find out that that is a result of his medication was actually awesome! I love him more now than ever :)

yes, i think so. i mean, although we may think our symptoms are under control but we never know what might happen in the future. and our partners have the right to know what they're getting into before marriage.

but from a certain point of view i can also understand the fear of telling them. cause sometimes youre scared of the ones you love being unable to accept you if they knew.

thanks for answering my question btw

Honestly yes. I have Borderline and PTSD. I take medications to control them but there are times when I'm not level. They deserve to know what they are getting into and if they don't love you enough to help you through it, they aren't worth keeping around

Without a doubt.

don't be leaving your trashy comments in other peoples answers you idiot. many people are suspicious of YOU

definitely a relationships pillars are honesty and combos

Hell yea. That'd be the right thing to do.