Does anyone know how to date a musician without problems if you're a non-musician?

Gee Wayne, my EX wife was a non-musician.

Yukina, when you say support him do you mean encourage him or pay the bills while he plays?

EDIT: Yukina, I’m sorry I made that joke (I blame Wayne. He baited me in!). But I’m glad Birdgirl answered as well. This needs a woman’s touch.

To make up for my joke I will tell you a truth. My ex-wife was sincerely fond of me and cared very deeply for me. But I’m sorry to say that a big part of her feelings for me were based on a fantasy. No one will deny that there is a certain mystique to music and musicians. For her, a big part of the attraction was the fantasy of loving a tormented, tortured genius. Sadly, it took her thirteen years to realize that I am no more tortured than any other man and most assuredly not a genius.

Never fall in love with an image. Images aren't real.

How OLD are you? You date a musician like you would anyone else. Ask questions about his music if you don't know anything about it or don't understand. My partner is a big sports fan and I could care less, but I listen patiently when he babbles on about sports statistics, just as he pretends to listen when I babble on about opera. I go to the occasional ballgame, and he tries to stay awake during classical recitals. Most importantly, over the years, we have found out that we have many OTHER things in common with one another. You need to find out what you two do have in common, and if you have absolutely NOTHING in common with each other (not even a MUTUAL physical attraction), then there isn't much going on here except a rather one-sided crush on someone you don't really know at all.

Whatever the case may be, what you DON'T want to do is to read up a few odd facts here and there about his specialization and then spout it out to him like you really know what you're talking about. You could say HONESTLY that you read such and such, and see what HE has to say about it. That way, you actually learn about something about what he knows and what he does, rather than PRETENDING you do and looking like an idiot.