How to deal with complaining overweight friend?

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Hello I m a 17 year old girl and I have a friend name Rachel. Now I ve known her since middle school so we re close but she s starting to annoy me with her weight problems!!

She s on meds that have weight gain as a side effect which I totally understand, but she still doesn t take care of her body. She will complain to me about her weight gain and drink 2 cans of soda in the same breath! I ve seen her do it. She also doesn t exercise due to back problems but swimming I know is a low impact sport. My grandma with arthritis swims 3x a week without complaint!

Also she doesn t eat well. For lunch, instead of bringing a filling healthy meal, she ll eat bags of chips instead. She eats chips for snack time and her pantry is full of junk. Now I indulge as well but not the extent she does and I certainty don t complain when I gain weight because of it.

She just won t stop complaining about her weight but won t do anything constructive about it and I m at my wits end with her! Help me before I lose it with her!!

Dylan · Answer

Confront her with these things. The same thing happened to me, now we don't talk to each other and for the last month of school last year she told everyone I called her fat (I didn't) so everyone was pissed off at me. Be gentle and choose your words very carefuly.

Mild Mind · Answer

I suggest you share: an apartment, a boy friend and her junk food with her.  You will all be happier this way.

bri · Answer

Just ask her one day, "what do you eat?" She tells u and then you ask if it's healthy (towards her) or you can tell her that it isn't healthy and that maybe you could help her.

mike · Answer

Tell her to loose weight

Anonymous · Answer

It is her business, not yours.  Leave her alone.  If she sees that you are not hounding her about her habits, maybe she will learn from your quiet example.

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