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Gay guy in love with straight friend. Is the story always the same?
I've a guy and have been friends with my metro-acting guy friend for about 5 years. I'm bi and he knows it. I've been in love with him for years, and he knows that too. I've never known him to date a girl.
He loves talking with me for hours on the phone, and we text each other every single day. When we hang out and I say goodbye he gives me the nicest, sweetest, longest hugs ever (like a minute long) and we press our cheeks against each other's the whole time, and then I kiss his cheek. He's always totally ok with that.
Anyway, I just found out that he has been dating a girl for about 6 months and he never told me. I'm crushed. I mean, I don't think he and I ever had a future because he says he's straight. But I feel like my heart has been ripped out and now I'm all emo.
Would you try to avoid the friendship so you could try to start caring less about him, or suck it up and deal with the pain because you know he's the nicest friend in the world and is so good to you in every other way?
I hate feeling this way.
4 Answers
- Anonymous6 years agoFavorite Answer
Suck it up since you have no control over his emotions, wants and needs and he has shown he loves you as a friend, just not as a lover-- and instead is attracted to this girl. Be proud for him and wish him well with her. Support your friend always.
- 6 years ago
Even though I am a straight guy, apart from that my situation is similar. For the girl I have a crush on I plan to ignore her until I can actually cope with what I have heard, then I will start talking to her, although don't just rush in as regardless of how ok you feel it will bring up some emotions. Although I am also doing this, I suggest you do the same: keep a track on their relationship, and depending or not on whether you want to do this or not, if their seems to be a crack, or loop hole in it, try and expand it to break them up. If you don't want to do that then either they will break up or they will live a happy life together and you will have to live with that.
- OnlookerLv 76 years ago
The best thing that could happen to you for him to have a girlfriend. Now you will begin to look elsewhere and discover all that other people have to offer. The fact that you were able to establish such a deep bond with him bodes well for your ability to have a deep bond with someone else. Just listen to your feelings. If you feel like talking with him, talk with him; if you don't, don't. My guess is that given that he has a girlfriend and you will (hopefully) be looking elsewhere, over time the two of you will have less contact. The important thing for you is to respect his choices. If you do that, in time, things between the two of you will get back to a better place.
- Anonymous6 years ago
Hmm
