Kevin

I'm a bi guy (probably mostly gay) and I can easily get emotionally attached to a guy. My friend is bi but has never become emotionally attached to a guy, but enjoys having sex with them.

We have experimented with each other before and there were no hesitations or limits. But next time we get together, I really feel like I want to experience being held closely in a hug, and kissing his cheek, and kissing his lips and stuff like that. Do you think a guy that doesn't get emotionally attached to guys would be ok with doing that?

Would you? Or is it really just reserved for guys that can also get emotionally attached and not just for sex??

I know this issue comes up a lot with Bi/Gay guys who have straight friends. So I need some serious help/advice.

I have a best friend who lives about 1.5 hours away now. We get together several times a year and we text every day and have phone calls that are hours long.

I have fallen so deeply in love with him, and I've told him, so it's no secret. He is straight, but tolerant of me being close to him when we hang out. He's the best guy ever and is so kind and gentle with everyone.

My issue is how heartbroken I get because I can't "be" with him....at least not in the ways I would like to. Seeing pictures of him with girls and stuff tears me apart. So seriously, what should I do? He really is my ONLY real friend and we trust each other with everything. No secrets, nothing held back, and like I said, I've never had a better friend.

How would you get over it? I really wish I can keep this friendship and just stop caring so much, but is that even possible???

Basically, if you dream that you came, does that always mean you did in real life?

Basically, I'm curious as to whether you want to do things to your guy friend because YOU enjoy the way it feels, or do you enjoy it mostly because you know you're turning THEM on? Or do you do it so you can get them to return the favor?

I hope you understand the question lol.

Basically, I want to do things to my guy because I like being the one who is turning him on.

Let's say you're bi and your friend is bi (I suppose it could just as well be gay), and you've started to find each other interesting enough that things are slowly progressing to where you are ready to kiss for the first time.

I know it's kind of got to be ok with both people, but would you use tongue the first time, or not until the 5th time, or only after 2 months, or what? What are your thoughts? I don't want to rush the guy if the norm is to lay back for a while.

I've a guy and have been friends with my metro-acting guy friend for about 5 years. I'm bi and he knows it. I've been in love with him for years, and he knows that too. I've never known him to date a girl.

He loves talking with me for hours on the phone, and we text each other every single day. When we hang out and I say goodbye he gives me the nicest, sweetest, longest hugs ever (like a minute long) and we press our cheeks against each other's the whole time, and then I kiss his cheek. He's always totally ok with that.

Anyway, I just found out that he has been dating a girl for about 6 months and he never told me. I'm crushed. I mean, I don't think he and I ever had a future because he says he's straight. But I feel like my heart has been ripped out and now I'm all emo.

Would you try to avoid the friendship so you could try to start caring less about him, or suck it up and deal with the pain because you know he's the nicest friend in the world and is so good to you in every other way?

I hate feeling this way.

I'm gay and when I fantasize about being with other guys I always think of things I can do to please them (and touching them). I rarely ever think about them "servicing" me.

Is that the way most gay people are, or is that unique to me?

If you're gay and kidding/messing around with your straight friend, how far does he let you go before he says "this is too gay" and stops?

Just curious how many people have straight friends that let them do some level of getting-close before making you stop at a certain point.

I'm in love with my straight friend and he knows it. We're still excellent friends and he lets me lean against him and he gives me super long warm hugs hello and goodbye.

I always think that if I could just curl up and cuddle with him and kiss him, that's all I'd need out of life. But is that true? Or will it only make me want more and more and more and more? He's perfect to me. And he smells freaking amazing! lol

My friend (a guy) says he's straight. I'm a guy and bi, and very much in love with him. He knows this. He is the best friend in the world, and we talk for hours on the phone.

When we're hanging out, he'll let me lean on him, rest my head on his shoulder, touch his arm, reach out and stroke his hand for a short bit, etc. I've noticed a few times he actually put a little cologne on and popped some gum in his mouth before we say bye from hanging out ... and we hug each other cheek to cheek and he holds me like that for like 30 seconds. I have kissed his cheek multiple times as we hug, and even his neck a few times. I also whisper I love you in his ear when we're hugging. We sometimes kid about getting a house together in the woods and how we should decorate it and stuff.

So, here's the question. I am head-over-heels in love with him and want him so bad. And, while he'll let me get this close, and maybe someday he'll let me get even closer, if he doesn't, then I know I'll forever be frustrated. And if he is straight for real and meets somebody or starts hooking up with other people, it's going to crush me inside beyond belief. What would you do? Would you continue being as close as you could be to someone you've fallen in love with so much, or would you try to make a clean break and get over him?

He's the best friend I've ever had, but I don't think I can just get over the feelings if I continue having him as a big part of my life.

Helppppppp

As a guy, sometimes you're friends with a guy that sets your gadar off big-time ... the way they dress, take care of their appearance, things they comment on, the way they touch you when they talk, sit real close and lean against you, buy you valentines presents, tell you you're the best thing that ever happened to them, give the longest longest longest hugs, tell you that you smell good ... etc etc.

So, when you tell them you're bi, and yet they refuse to say that they're anything but straight, why is that? I mean, it's sometimes so obvious, but why don't they at least admit it to you, knowing you'll never tell a soul. If they already trust you implicitly, why won't they say they are?

Ok, so Im bi and my straight friend knows it. We give each other really long hugs hello and bye when we hang out.

Last time we hung out (we were driving in his car), before I said bye for the night I had to hop out to grab something from my car, and then got back into his to say goodnight. I noticed that he had put a little cologne on while I was gone and he had a breath mint.

So, I definitely don't want to read too much into that, but just curious, he knows we're about to get close and hug, and he wants to smell nice for me. Do normally straight guys do that, or is he maybe not as straight as I think?

Just curious!

I'm in-the-closet bi, but my straight friend knows this, and he knows I have a crush on him, but he says he's totally straight, and he's not into experimenting.

We were watching tv a few nights ago hanging out at his place and he asked me if I've ever looked at gay porn, and I was honest and told him that's pretty much all I look at lol. So he asks me why, and what's the fascination with it, and I told him I get really turned on by watching other guys "finish". We then talked about other things for while, and then he asks if I've ever actually seen another guy "finish" in person, and I said no, not yet. About 15 minutes later he says "do you wanna watch me?", and I couldn't even answer him. I just blushed and kept staring to see if he was joking. He KNOWS I like him. I've told him that.

5 minutes later he's sitting on the couch and takes his jeans off and asks me what he should do. I got up and sat on the floor next to the couch and told him to lay down and start rubbing himself, which he did. After a few minutes I asked if he would take his shirt off too, which he immediately did. Soon his underwear was off and he was putting on a show and rubbing himself and even playing with his own nipples and stuff. it was a ridiculous turn on and i actually "finished" just by watching him. it was crazy. and then he finished, and we didn't say anything and he got up and cleaned himself up and I left shortly after that.

sorry this is so long. we didn't talk/text for two days, then he texts and asks if i wanna come over again before he goes out for the night, so i do, and he asks if i want to watch him again, and of course now i say yes, and he puts on another show.

now i can't stop thinking about it, day and night, it replays in my mind constantly. i want to join in so bad. is he the biggest tease in history? How straight could he be if he seems to enjoy me watching him? why won't he let me "help" him, and why isn't he texting as much as usual?

I have a straight friend who knows I'm bi and like him. We kid about it. He's not open to experimenting (yet lol) but he said I could watch him jerk off if I wanted to.

I definitely want to. But is he teasing me, knowing I like him, or is he secretly maybe bi and wants to experiment, or what. Like, would a totally straight guy do that in front of another guy knowing the other guy "likes" him?

I'm a guy, and in-the-closet bi. My friend is the same, except he has a girlfriend and he has told her he is interested in experimenting with a guy. He and I both know about each other, but have never done anything with each other yet, but have discussed it and are both open to it. It would be the first time with a guy for both of us. I've met his gf once, but don't really know her.

Here's the catch. He wants me to come over and he wants us to do all kinds of gay things to each other, but he wants her to be there and watch. IF she wants to, she'd be allowed to join and he would do stuff with her, while I continued to do stuff with him.

How weird is that? I totally thought it would be very private with just him and me, and I'd feel pretty uncomfortable doing things with anybody else knowing, much less watching!

Anybody else ever have their first gay experience occur while somebody else watched????!!! I'm not sure what to do, but I'm very interested in experimenting and experiencing stuff.

My friend acts really metro and is supposedly straight. I'm bi and in the closet, but he knows that. Whenever we meet up, we always hug for a longgggg time and he presses his cheek against mine, and when we pull away I always kiss him on the cheek.

I've even kissed him on his neck a few times. A few times I reached out and touched his hand and just traced my fingers over it and did that for a long time and he never said anything. BUT, one time he just lightly pulled his hand away, so I stopped doing that. BUT, if I do just reach out and quickly and lightly touch it he doesn't pull away or say anything ... but the prolonged contact seems to maybe not be something he will allow.

The hugs are incredible, and kissing his cheek and neck is wonderful. Before we part ways I can nuzzle my face into his neck and kiss it and tell him I love him. He never says anything at all like that back, and he never kisses me back or initiates any touching except the long hugs and the cheek to cheek thing.

What do you think? Tolerant straight guy or not-ready-to-come-out-of-the-closet bi guy, or am I just reading too much into this?

Just curious (bi curious lol). Some guys have penises that stick strait out, some aim straight up, some curve to the left, some curve to the right, etc.

Do you care? Would it matter to you what direction your partner's was? Any preference?

I'm a guy, bi and in the closet, and I went out-of-town with a friend to see a show and we stayed in a hotel for a night. When it got really late, and he was on his laptop on the bed I was sitting next to him just watching what he was doing.

At one point, I just stretched out next to him and rested my head on his shoulder and he didn't move away or say anything. We just kept chatting. I rested my hand on his chest expecting him to tell me to move it but he didn't. So we just kept talking like nothing was happening, and I very lightly stroked his chest while my head stayed on his shoulder. By the way, he smelled absolutely amazing lol. This went on for like an hour. At one point I lifted my head up and gave him a very soft kiss on the cheek and then put my head back down. Again, he said and did nothing. Finally, it was really really late and we both decided to go to sleep.

I know there's no clear way to know without asking, but could he be bi or do you think he was just extremely tolerant of me because we have a fantastic close friendship?

Would a straight guy let you do that? I've had a crush on him for a while but after that I feel so in love and I don't want to screw up our friendship. Why are some guys so hard to read?

I'm a guy, bi and in-the-closet and I have a friend (guy) who is metro acting. I've never asked him if he was straight or bi or gay. Over the past couple of years, I've been getting closer and closer and closer to him. I would brush against his arm or hand and he wouldn't move away. Eventually the hugs hello and bye got longer and longer and longer, with cheeks pressed against each other.

I started leaning against him as we watched tv, and he was fine with it. I started kissing his cheek hello and bye and he was fine with it. I began holding his hand while we watch tv or were driving around. I would rub his leg/thigh and he didn't even say anything. Honestly, I feel so much in love with him now. This has been going on for months. Yet, he never initiates any of this. He just doesn't pull away when I do it. He's let me cuddle up with him once and softly stroke his chest on top of his shirt while we talked about life.

Last night, he finally mentioned that he wants to be friends, but is very confused by the way I act around him and he was kinda uncomfortable with the physical contact. I'm so in love with him it hurts so bad inside.

Well, when we were saying bye, I just went for a quick guy hug, but he held on extra long and tight again and pressing his cheek to mine but I just kinda stood there motionless because I was hurting so much.

Tell me, how can I have been that wrong? I thought all the signs were there that he was ok with everything. So, let my sad experience be a warning to others. If they don't say they're gay/bi, don't assume it by the way they act. And if you don't have a clear go-ahead, they just may be tolerant.

Being bi is so hard because it's so easy to fall in love with your close friends. Arghhhhh. How could I have been soooooo wrong? Where did I go wrong???

I have a friend who is supposedly straight. I'm in-the-closet bi, but have indirectly come out to him and let him know I like him. He let's me kiss his cheek, hold/rub his hand, and rub his thigh (he's wearing pants). At this point in time he won't let me do anything more. So what's the deal? Could he really be straight and allowing this, or do you think he's kinda bi as well, or what? I'm so confused by him.

Anybody else here have a truly straight friend that allows touching and stuff, but nothing more??