How do I end my relationship? please help!?

First off, you're only 19. It's perfectly OK if you don't find The One right now. If you are really happy with someone right now while knowing full-well that you will never marry him, that's OK. You don't need to be thinking about marriage yet. It's OK to just have fun with someone who treats you well.

Second, you don't have to stay with someone simply because he treats you well (or at least, better than an ex). If you're not enjoying the relationship, it's OK to bail out. It doesn't make you mean, ungrateful, or a bad person. You shouldn't search for reasons to stay in a relationship. Life is too short to be unhappy.

You aren't a bad person if you break it off with him. Yes, he might cry or beg you to stay or promise he'll change. A breakup - whether it's a serious adult relationship, or a teenage puppy love - is ALWAYS going to be unpleasant. It is NEVER going to be mutual and tidy and civil. But the pain won't last long. Just suck it up, break up, and move forward. You will both feel better shortly down the road. Just sit him down and tell him that it's no longer working and you are breaking up. He doesn't need to agree with you or like it. You can talk about it, but if one party says they're done then you guys are DONE. Break it off, talk if you want, and then say goodbye and move forward and stop talking to him.

Finally - again, you are NINETEEN. You are putting WAY too much emphasis on relationships right now.

The boyfriend from ages 13-17 doesn't mean squat in the long run, and what you experienced was not actually "love," so forget about him (I mean, take some lessons from it about getting rid of boys who don't treat you right, but don't treat him like an ex-husband or something. A young relationship like this is not as serious as you think it is right now, I promise you).

And with this current boyfriend, you shouldn't need to put THIS much effort into a relationship. You shouldn't have to have huge discussions and take "breaks" and wait around for him to change. This is the point in your life where you are still finding yourself and deciding what YOU want. This is NOT the time to make a lifelong commitment to someone, or to be in couples therapy with a boyfriend. This is the point where you should be trying out different things, and if something doesn't work you put it behind you and move on.

You can't "fix" this guy, nor should you beat your head against a wall in an attempt to fix him. Sharing food isn't a bad trait in a person, but his reaction (annoyance vs. anger) might be. And at age 19 you may both still be young, but at the same time he's old enough to get his shiiit together and go to school/trade school, get a job, or join the military. (He might feed you a line of crap that he "will go to school" - but guess what, honey, if he REALLY wanted to go then he would be there by now.)

If he's 19 and spends all his time smoking weed and playing video games, then guess what - eventually he's going to be an unemployed 35 year-old living in Mommy's basement who smokes weed and plays video games and can't settle down or make a worthwhile contribution to the world or to a girlfriend/wife. Don't waste your time with him.

So, long story short: Break up, concentrate on your schoolwork, become your own person, and at some point another guy will come along and you can try again. Maybe it'll be forever, maybe it won't ... but the point is to enjoy yourself, learn from the experience, and only spend your time with people who are good to you. If you're not having fun or learning anything or if you're being treated badly, then cut that experience from your life and move on.

This is why rebound dating is never a good idea.

The truth is, you weren't 100% happy in your relationship with your cheating boyfriend. However, you were unwilling to leave it, maybe because you hoped things would eventually get better or maybe because you didn't want to end up alone. Then, along came the "greener grass" so to speak. You knew that ending the cheating relationship would leave you with a hole in your heart, but you also knew that there was an opportunity to fill that hole with "greener grass". That's all rebound relationships ever are; they fill in the void a person feels after they leave someone they really care about.

Now that your void has been filled and you have recovered from your past cheating relationship, you have come to realize that "greener grass" was never a suitable match to begin with. You have little in common, he has behaviors which are annoying to you, you do not see a future with this person. The truth is, your judgment was so clouded with the pain of your break up and the relief of "greener grass", you couldn't see the forest for the trees, so to speak.

Hopefully you have learned from this experience and will not jump into relationships so quickly after a heartbreaking loss. Always give yourself time to grieve and to recuperate, work on yourself and get yourself to a healthy and happy state of mind before you consider bringing someone else in. In all likelihood, you will have to end this relationship. When you do so, it's important that you stress that you moved on too quickly and you realize now that this was a mistake on your part. Tell him that it was nothing he did wrong.

So you prefer someone who doesn't love you, lies to you, and cheats on you?

In other words, you hate yourself and want nothing but misery all our life?

So, get therapy.

BTW, if you weren't a moron, as well as being self-loathing, you'd have noticed that those two are not the ONLY males on Earth.

And if you had ANY sense at all, you'd realize that spending our entire life in one relationship or another is really unhealthy. You've never experienced being on your own.

Yes, ou need to break up.

No, he isn't so great at all, but that has nothing to do with anything.

ou can't break up without hurting him.

Just do it. And do NOT leap into another relationship right away.

Learn how to be an adult human being. Get therapy.

As for how, you say that you're ver sorry, but you need to move on. Then do so. Don't argue about it, just keep repeating that you're sorry, but it's over, while you pack and leave.

No contact after.

I hate to say it, but you just need to be blunt about it. You need to sit him down and explain you just don't feel the way you should when you're dating. You can be nice about it and explain what a great guy he is, but in the end, you just need to do it. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. I know about that part!

What a joke.