How do I leave home?

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I am 17, and I live in MN. I have my licence, I don't have a job, but I have somewhere I could go. Laws for emancipation state there is no set procedure for the process here, and that a parent must give permission. I only have one parent, and that is my mom. She is BPD, but she won't go in and seek treatment for it. She attacks me verbally, and then calls me immature when I resort. She has attacked me physically, but she pulls my hair, and pulls it down so that I'm kinda in a bowing position, so I can't see. So I'm hitting at her hands, her face, anything to get her off me. So I've given her black eyes, bruises, etc and even though she's the one who comes at me, she makes it look like I go after her. In the last couple years, sometimes what she will do is back me up to a wall, then stick her face in mine, so that were nose to nose, and start screaming at me and spitting on me, then when I push her off of me, she starts attacking me. The reason she keeps me around is because she is a bully and likes to have control, but also because she needs me here so she can file bankruptcy in a few months. We're severely in debt, which she blames on me.

I've been in the hospital for suicide. I have severe depression and anxiety. I have to get out of my house, or I'm going to end up killing myself out of misery. Please give me some legal advice on what to do, and not just to tough it out until I'm 18, because that isn't an option. I really need help.

The Arbiter of common sense · Answer

You have two options. You either put yourself under the care of the Children's Services in your state, or you tough it out. Those are your only legal options. You will not be emancipated because you do not meet the criteria, including the ability to support yourself financially in a home that you rent entirely yourself. I agree that is harsh, but the rules are there to protect you.

Look up your local Children's Protective Services office and ask for advice or help.

Maxi · Answer

So you have no job, no means of supporting yourself and you fight with your mother ( who shows signs of the attacks from you) so think on.... the police will return you when she reports you gone...so you are back to where you began, but in a worse situation than before.

So stop arguing with her, learn to listen and don't speak ( keep the peace for your own safety) if she attacks you phone the police and report her, no one has to put up with domestic abuse. 
I am assuming you are still in education if so go find yourself a part time job and earn some money, build your self esteem, if you are not in full time education then go find full time work as soon as possible, save so you do have some money of your own when you do leave...but reality is running away will cause more trouble for you, more heartache for you and they will return you home.
You are asking a legal question but telling people that you only want to hear certain "advice" ( and that is illegal advice) You certainly need to go and see your doctor as at 17yrs old with "severe depression and anxiety" and threatening to kill yourself is classified as mental health issues...those you need to resolve

Liz · Answer

I agree that you really need help, but emancipation is not the help you need. Your history of mental illness will disqualify you right from the start.  You need to confide in an adult you trust (such as a teacher or neighbour or counsellor) and get CPS involved.

blue · Answer

I have been in the Same thing, you really can't do anything unless u take both tour parents to court, an ask for your freedom, then they can sign all rights to u, but intil u get that u have to wait abother year.

Ace Shorty · Answer

How long is it going to be before you are 18? Where is your father at? Where would you go to?

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