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Need some advice from men - would you act like this with a girl who is just a friend? Does he like me or just being nice/a gentleman? Thanks?
My boss gave me tix for a carnival w/ a concert at the end (w kinda sappy music), and I invited a close guy friend of mine who my friends think likes me. I didnt feel that way about him (or just didnt realize I did until recently) and didnt actually think he would come bc he lives 2hrs away, but he did! We made these plans 3+ weeks in advance and he had PLENTY of time to back out, but when we confirmed the plans, he said he would pick me up (turns out he brought a jacket along "in case one of us gets cold," and opened the car door for me).
This is a guy who calls me "darlin" and cute and asks me what my future life plans are, and on Valentines day he asked my bff what my plans were. He also hugs me alot, puts his arm around me, and tapped my upper thigh in a convo. Anyway:
We spent pretty much the whole day/night there - shared food and walked around sharing a massive cup of beer. He did stuff like tell me what his strategies were for winning the games (referencing his muscles) and when i told him a story about another guy friend of mine in passing, he was totally dismissive and said "well good for him." At the concert, our arms were touching the entire time but when the night ended, he NEVER MADE A MOVE!!
Am I just reading too much into this situation? I would def drive that far to hang out w a guy if it were a group thing, but the whole jacket/car door thing just seems so date-y to me and am now confused abt whats going on and would appreciate any advice - thanks!
3 Answers
- AlJoLv 45 years agoFavorite Answer
Firstly, it seems clear that he likes you. No guy drives two hours to see a girl he's not into.
Secondly, it's quite possible that he's as nervous and unsure about the situation as you are. Assuming that the guy is the one going to trigger the relationship will likely cause frustration on the both of you.
Thirdly, although you mention all the little signals he gave, you don't mention any signals you gave him. He probably finished the night thinking, she NEVER GAVE ME ANY SIGNALS!!.
And so, if you're interested in starting a relationship with this guy, you've got several things you could try.
You could talk to him directly about it. Ask him what he thinks about you and him. Ask how much he thinks of you. How much he likes you. You get the idea. Lay it all out there.
You could make the move yourself next time. Find a quiet moment and just lean in and kiss him softly on the lips. Some guys don't know how to react to this so be very slow and talk a lot.
You could give off more obvious signals for him to make a move. Grab his hand and hold it directly with yours and tell him he has great hands as you move your hands slowly over his. There is a bunch of signals you could give off.
Good luck!
- 5 years ago
It could very well be that he likes you and is just shy or very slow to feel comfortable with making the first move. You could always take that upon yourself. If you feel the good energy from him and what you are saying is accurate, he likes you.