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Why can't I be nice to this guy? Why do I feel I have to push him away when he is only trying to do kind to me?

I met this guy when I was stranded at a bus station, he was nice enough to offer me his blanket to keep warm in, and even offered me his truck to sleep in if I wanted to. I took the blanket but refused the truck because I didn't know him. We are both homeless, he was not doing well at the shelter he had been staying at so I offered to show him the shelter I was going to. He wants a relationship, but. I am not really interested in one, as I am not in a good place in my life. I am a mess and need to focus on getting on the right track. I offered to take him to the shelter I stay at in order to help him like he helped me.

I have not been very patient with him and I know it hurts him. I feel bad. I think I get like this because at every turn, I feel like I have to be one step ahead of him, he smokes, and I don't . He gets mad everytime I ask him to roll down the window in the car. When I want to take an hour nap I cant get an hour in without an interruption. I feel like I cant get any space for at least an hour or two to take care things I need to get done. Its hard enough as it is being homeless. What can I do? I don't mean to lash out at him. I'm just very tired, I am also trying hold down a job and its hard to sleep in a shelter when you're around people you don't know.

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  • Merry
    Lv 7
    5 years ago
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    I think you are being a wonderful friend to him .. & a wonderful friend to yourself!

    Tell him what you have said here - that you're not in a great place in your life to have a relationship - that at the moment all you can offer is a friendship - that, for you, being homeless is hard & that you value his friendship but that you just don't have any more to give!

    Be kind to yourself - Good luck... perseverance and resilience & a little faith and trust will see you through this tough time!

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    You don't respect him because your self-esteem is low, and he lets you mooch off of him. What sort of loser would help YOU, right?

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