Why do people never believe me when I say I don't want children?

I think more people should be like you instead of having children without really thinking about it and then not looking after them. Once you have a child it is too late to decide that you don't want them but many children find that they have parents who do decide this. You are entitled to live your life the way you want to without other people questioning your decisions. It is also extremely impolite to ask someone about whether they want to have children or not because some people who can't have children can become distressed when this happens. Generally people should mind their own business and respect the decisions of others.

The planet really doesn't need any more people. It certainly doesn't need anymore terrible parents who are not interested in the children they produce. Do what you want to do it is your life and don't let others bully you.

People are stupid that's why. I have noticed women get judged more than men for not having kids. Women get judged for being young mums women get judged for having babies at an older age my friend got pregnant at 35 and people were questioning if she would be able to handle a baby at that age. I have noticed that 24-34 are the most "acceptable ages to have a baby" if you fall into the younger or older part of the spectrum you get judged. Women get judged for not having kids because they are expected to be maternal People think they have something wrong with them like they have a problem with commitment or family values I would say by the time you are 34/35 and you are still sure that you don't want kids then you will only be taken seriously. Most people (not all) usually make a final decision about whether they want kids when they hit 30 because then the biological clock starts ticking so you need to think quickly. The most important thing is that you are happy. Ignore the judgement it is your life. You make your own decisions

I think a lot people grab onto the idea of having children, and so many of us assume that we are all the same. Which is of course, a hasty generalization. Every time someone asked me if I wanted kids, they always reacted surprised as If I committed a crime. When I ask others if they want kids, the majority of women usually respond with "yes" or "thinking about it" or "not right now" - but rarely do I get "Never" or "Not a chance". Sometimes I hear "I hate kids", but that's as far as that goes. Just because a women likes children, doesn't mean she wants to have children. I think a lot of people think that if you like kids, you are going to have kids- and if you don't, it seems odd to people.

Stop being so militant about it. You don't have to announce this to everyone. If there's say you will change your mind don't get in an argument.

Think about the toys we give girls. We give them dolls to take care of. We socialize girls to take care of children, and thus many girls grow up wanting to have children. When the exception comes along, this catches people off guard.

Why are they so adamant that you will change your mind? The answer is cognitive dissonance. That's a fancy psychological term for what you might call "feeling uncertain". When people make a choice, they worry about whether they made the right choice. They decrease this worry by telling themselves that they made the right choice, and that the other choice was wrong. Then, when someone comes along who made the other decision, they can't say to themselves, "both choices are equally valid." They say to themselves "my choice to have children was the right choice, and she is making the wrong choice." What they say to you is, "you'll change your mind [to the right choice]". Except they don't say that last part out loud. For them to accept that your choice is right, they must accept the possibility that their choice was not right. For people who are more comfortable with themselves, they can live with your choice being different from theirs, but few people get to that level of comfort.

Your choice is perfectly valid. I'm not trying to talk you out of it. I will point out that you seem quite negative about "this sh*** world". A few sessions with a therapist would help you identify what in particular is bothering you about this world, as well as identifying ways to either improve or make peace with those things that are bothering you. I'm not saying that this will make you want to have children. I'm saying that this will make you happier. Your doctor will make a referral, or your insurance company has a list of therapist who are in your area.

Those is us who are breeders derive a lot of satisfaction from our kids, we find parenthood to be one of the most fulfilling experiences of our lives, and we tend to wish the same for you. So, we can get pushy about it. It's a mistake tho as you already know. It's not for everyone, and the child-free types should be left to go their own way.

I think more people will be accepting of your choice once you are in your mid 30s. Some people just want to wait until they've accomplished more with their own life. Once you've done that, and if your decision still stands, people will start to take you more seriously.