Is my boyfriend violent to me due to smoking weed?

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I've been with this boy for nearly 2 years! Soon into our relationship the verbal abuse started. He smokes about 3-4 joints a day and has done for god knows how long. He has random mood swings & im constantly treading on egg shells. Half of the time I do not do anything wrong to deserve any abuse and he only ever speaks to me this way! Never his friends. I feel like I'm an easy target. After a recent argument ended with him punching me a few times in the head, I've asked him to go seek help! He's spoke to his doctor & they have just put him on anti depressants! This is the third violent accident. I know it's so easy for people not in my situation to pass judgment & to tell me to get out. It's just not as easy as that. I do love this guy! I just want to help him & try see the good in him too!

m · Answer

Doesn't matter why...what matters is that you leave and doesn't go back.  Weed IS bad for him.  I saw it be bad for my little brother (I had moved out...it tanked that boy.  So sad.  He's turned a corner but he is much better OFF drugs.)  You deserve better.  Rip the bandaid off...and get out of that relationship.  Wish him well, encourage him to value himself enough to take care of himself...but he needs to be with a pot head who doesn't want children if he doesn't want to quit weed.  You need stability and kindness in your life.  and you need to call the police if he touches you...but leave. Now. Please.  Let someone else see the good in him when he has faced his demons and won.  You deserve better.

Anonymous · Answer

Smoking pot generally does not lead to violence. My guess is he would be even more abusive if he didn't smoke it.

The help he needs is not within your power to give. He will not get better as long as you allow him to mistreat you.

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Is my boyfriend violent to me due to smoking weed?

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