I got married to a man that I didn't want to get married too, and my parents will disown me if I try and get a divorce. What should I do?

No, you should protect yourself and go to a Women's shelter immediately. If you are over the age of 21 in Canada you are considered a legal adult and can make your own choices. I am very sorry about your parents being stuck on their religion, but you can't do anything about that. You can do for yourself, though, and that includes finding the courage to protect your physical body from abuse from a man you do not want. There are people at the Women's shelter who are trained to help you find a safe house and help with legal counsel for divorce proceedings. If your parents disown you, realize that you are not the only one. My mom left me off her will when I did not marry in "her" church. And I am thankful for that -- because she is a hoarder and the mess she will leave behind is huge and I do not want the responsibility of cleaning up her stuff. Can you live without your family and work at a job and have your own apartment? Yes, yes you can. You can be brave and train for a job that pays for your rent, food and utilities, and you can build an independent life without them for a while. They may forgive you over time. Time between them and you is a good thing. They may reconsider, they may not. But you, you must be brave and save yourself now. The best advice I ever received was on the airplane -- "First take care of yourself, and then you will be able to help the person next to you." Get your own oxygen into your own lungs. Get yourself to safety first, then deal with the repercussions. Get help and then get some counseling and get some support from people who not only do care but have the training to get you legal help. I wish you good luck in having the courage to do this before something terrible happens.

Understand this whether you care to admit it or not your parents are abusing you because of their ignorance. One day you will have children and if they grow up in the same type of culture you grew up in they will be abused as well. If you leave your husband, abandon your family and culture and start a new life you will be giving your future children the greatest gift a parent can give their children. You will be giving them the opportunity to grow up with freedom, the freedom to grow into emotionally mature and fulfilled human beings.

I would strongly advise you to just leave everything, no matter how hard it is there are people and organisations who will help and support you. If you do this you will have an enormous void in your life that must be filled because if you don't fill it depression will. I would suggest that you fill this void with study, study the reasons why your culture repeatedly and unnecessarily causes such human misery.

If you do this you will become knowledgable and capable of helping others in the future who suffer as you did. If you help others in this way you will also be helping yourself because you will have true worth and value and meaning to your life and that is psychologically healthy. When you reach that stage you will be ready to find a good man who will respect you as a human being and love you and you will produce and nurture wonderful well balanced children and that is the most beautiful thing you can achieve.

If you ran away and moved near me I am kafir but I would not hesitate to help you in any way I can and ask nothing in return. If I would do this for you and I am just an ordinary man then wherever you end up there will be others who would do the same.

I wish you well and every success and happiness whichever course you choose.

Sister your marriage is invalid and you are committing zina.

Regardless of suiting yourself or your parents, you need to remember that Islamically, your parents have committed a grave sin by forcing you to get married against your will. A marriage is not acceptable to Allah without your willing consent.

If your parents are that religious, they should know that. And secondly, they should know that it is forbidden to cut off ties with family or any brother/sister.

Or, as I'm not thinking, are they more bothered about their status in cultural Islam rather than real Islam?

It is a good that you are using birth control. He is trying to get you pregnant so to trap you. Don't have a baby with him. Your parents want you to stay married only because they want grandchildren.

Please don't have kids with him. You are not in a healthy environment. Having kids will only make things worse. Your husband will abuse his kids and his kids will in turn turn abusive toward you. Lots of men teach their sons to abuse their mothers. It is the truth.

I am old enough to be your mom. If I were your parent, I would never have chosen any abusive man for you to marry. As your parent, I would feel disrespected by him, if he abuses you. If a son-in-law abuses my family, I am disrespected. If he insults you, I am insulted, that is if I were your mother.

Your parents should feel disrespected by your husband, when he abuses you. It is like this, they are SELFISH and UNCARING. They didn't take the time to suss out your husband's character and wonder if he is fit to take dare of you, before they married you to him. No, they just DUMPED you on a man to take care of you financially, because they did not want the burden of spending any money to feed you, clothe you, put roof over your head, etc. They just want one less to feed. You and your sister are now two heads less to feed in your selfish parents' house.

If you ever decide to leave your husband, do so QUIETLY. Don't tell him you are doing this, as he is very controlling and possessive. Don't tell your parents either; they WON'T understand your situation, because they are too selfish.

After you leave and find shelter, you can send them emails. When you have found shelter, don't fall for your parents' tricks like "we forgive you, baby. Now come home to momma and papa." It is a trap that comes with beatings and threats. Your husband and parents will use your sister and pressurise her to make you to leave home or return to your husband." That will happen.

Once you have found a new life, STAY OUT, no matter what others may say or what Imams may say. Don't listen to imams on marriage advice. Things will NOT improve, given your husband's history of abuse.

First of all, you cannot please everyone.

It's high time you realized the fact that your parents love Islam more than they love you and left them and Islam which is an insane Cult.

Go to the Police and take their help.

Try to get a job and stand on your own feet. Leave town and relocate and stay away from the Muslims.

Tell your sister to also get help, but, don't expect it to work until she does it.

I'm sure you'll meet someone who will keep you happy.

All the best.

Do you call it love, when you're parents sit by and watch you and your sister suffer? I call it selfishness.

You need a plan. Start by finding a job and saving a little money, then, make the break. You can go for shared accommodation, where you won't need furniture etc. They will not be able to find you. You can meet them on your terms, when the dust settles.

First of all, are you Indian? Because I have the suspicion that you are

Secondly, Do your parents know about this guys behaviour? Because I doubt any parent, even a religious parent, would willingly let their daughter be subjected to abuse

Salam You must tell honestly to your parents why you hate or dislike your husband.You must tell them what you want in your life before you asking a divorce from your husband.You must also tell your husband that you do not like him with your strong reason.Besides that you must make dua to Allah swt

If you don't like him, divorce him and get it over with. Don't stay in a marriage that makes you depressed. It's unhealthy

Try to find a job on the other side of the country and bail out. You should not be obligated to live a life of misery to satisfy your parents. If they can't accept that they failed in finding you a husband you will have to cut the cord and hope they come around.