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Trans kid friendship advice?
Okay, so I just told my best friend two weeks ago that I'm trans, and she said she was happy for me and everything, but the thing is, I used to hang out with her all the time, but now I feel like I can't invite her over because she will treat me differently? I don't want her to think of me differently than before, but I'm sure she does... What I REALLY need help with is the fact that I haven't told my parents yet, so if she came over and started calling me by my new name they would be freaked out. And if I don't invite her over anytime soon, they'll wonder what's wrong, since she's one of my closest friends, and I used to have her over all the time. What should I do? Thanks :(
3 Answers
- 5 years ago
Do you know that she'll treat you differently? Or do you just suspect it? And if so, maybe that wouldn't be the worst thing? You've told her that you are different person than she thought you were, there's probably going to be some time for the two of you to get used to how your friendship goes again and recalibrate the rules.
Why don't you plan a few times to hangout without her being around your parents? If the two of you go to the mall, a movie, hiking, etc. then you won't have to worry about whether she can censor herself or not, but you'll still be tending the friendship. At some point then you can talk to her about the fact that you aren't out to your parents and that she needs to not out you. She'll likely have figured that out herself, but it's good to explicitly talk about it.
- the internetLv 75 years ago
If you don't want her to treat you differently don't treat her differently.
