My neighbor asked me out should I accept?

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I'm 20 years old and have never dated or have a boyfriend, it's not that I haven't wanted to it's just I find if I wait long enough I see what a jerk the guys who I like or like me back are. My neighbor lives in the apartment down from me and he's very attractive , he seems nice and he has a dog like me. We have walked together before when we happened to be walking our dogs at the same time. I didn't think we would actually be waking together since he seems to be out of my league, he looks like he works out a lot, me almost never. He asked me out when I got home from work while he was taking his dog out. I asked him to give me time to answer that and he seemed to be okay with it. What should I do? He seems very nice but what if I go out with him and he makes me uncomfortable.

Torchbug · Accepted Answer

OK, first off, it's normal to feel uncomfortable with someone you don't know very well, and doing something you haven't done before. Don't let that stop you. If you go out with him and he turns out to be a jerk, you just end the date and go home. "Sorry, I'm not feeling well, I've got to go," or "I think I'm going to call it a night. Thanks for dinner." Or whatever.

If you have safety concerns, then tell someone where you will be, keep your phone with you and text a friend (nothing lengthy, just a check in) during the date, and drive yourself in your own car to whatever restaurant or theater or whatever where the date will happen.

Don't worry about him being "out of your league." If he didn't think you were worth asking out, he wouldn't be asking you out. Take him at face value and don't overthink it.

? · Answer

Look, if you're halfway interested in the guy, you should accept. But, for the 1st few dates, insist that you meet for drinks or coffee, or do lunch - something where you can expect it to end in an hour or so. After a 2 or 3 of these sorts of date's you should have a feel for how well you like him and will be able to know if you want to get more serious. Given that the dude is your neighbor, you want to make sure that things don't get ugly between the 2 of you. So, don't allow that to happen, if at all possible. And, don't think for a minute that he's out of your league. He evidentially finds you attractive and worthy of his time. That puts you in his league. Good luck.

Sean K · Answer

A date is just a date. You can go on several dates and not have to commit to a kiss or anything else.

Barfalomew · Answer

If you are waiting to see if someone is a jerk, you will find a way to be right. Just go date. You need the practice. The first one probably is not "the one", so just go have fun. Also, if you give it up too soon, he will be gone.

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