Is there a reason why he takes his anger out on me ??

His deployment has nothing to do with your situation.

You KNOWINGLY married a controlling, potential abuser. He is simply carrying forward with behaviors that you were already seeing. He doesn't want you to lose too much weight out of fear that you will become more attractive to other men and not feel like he is the best you can do.

From personal experience it is HIGHLY unlikely that he will back off or that he will agree to see a marriage counselor.

You have a choice to stick with a control freak and become a physically and mentally abused subservient spouse or stand up for yourself and walk out.

I'm betting you will fold and do what your resident control freak says.

Yes, telling you how to dress or what to weigh, does sound controlling. It's fine for him to express a preference for certain types of outfits you wear, or to comment if you appear to be getting unhealthy (due to weight gain/loss or something else) but to try to dictate your size and appearance is not okay.

Is there a reason he takes his anger out on you? LOTS of people take their anger out on others. Doesn't make it okay, but it's common. It's usually taken out on friends or loved ones. He should be working out or finding anger outlets where he is, rather than taking it out on you. You're free to end the calls when he does that. Just sweetly say you're sorry he's upset but it's not okay for him to take his anger out on you so you're going to hang-up now, and you hope he'll go hit the punching bag or run or find some other outlet for his emotion. You look forward to speaking to him again soon, when he's feeling better, and you love him --- and then hang up the phone. When he learns you aren't going to just stay on the line while he blows up at you inappropriately, hopefully he'll stop doing it.

Hopefully you two can work things out when he gets home. Consider couples counseling. Also, please tell him THANK YOU (from me) for his service!

Your husband needs help - but men, particularly military men, always have great difficulty admitting it.

You have to tell him that you absolutely insist on getting counselling - immediately.

This is only going to get worse if you put it off, and very soon he'll probably start hitting you, insulting you, ordering you around and making you feel really bad.

If you deal with it now, there's a good chance you can work it out.

Good luck!

SORRY

YOU treat him wrong

be a little bir more careful

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My husband is in the military.

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Now u can see

we are not joking.

Problem.

U provoke him?

Why and how?

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He is choleric and u should solve that, cause u kbow him more than 10 days.

so ---------------------> why are u NOT interested in him?

He's been in overseas since this past February.

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ok.

It's not the first time he's been deployed. Since he's been there, He's taken his anger out on me,

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That s wrong.

OK

Lets watch reality.

There is a little dust and ll scream and screaming and hurting you.

So

what do u HAVE to do:

Relax him so he is laughing

about the dust or a broken plate.

AND do fun tother rose riding basket ball or squash...

CAUSE HE is LONELY. So show a little respect. Read more.

as well as putting me down for little things.

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NO

I haven't talked to him since last Sunday.

That makes him sad. You create hate.

You are not his mother.

I decided not to contact him because he can be a butthole sometimes but I still love him, He's suppose to come back in October this year.

***You fool him.

We don't have kids and we've been friends since we were kids.

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So U have to wake up. He is not a piece of wood.

Our family's know each other and etc. We got married last year in June while I was in Texas with him. He's mentioned to me before that he thinks I or we should change my clothing appearance and that he doesn't want me to lose too much weight and etc..

Cause u are to much silent.

.Could there be a reason why he's being this way.

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SURE

Read the txt and help him, please.

Does he sound controlling ?

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Sure cause your wrong behaviour.

He's mentioned to me before about him possibly having ptsd. But I don't know what else to do because he won't let me in....Please help, Thanks in advance

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Stop Your vioence. Try love=understanding. Stop judging.

Judging by your other questions you aren't married and he wants you to lose weight and dress differently.

6 months ago (September) you say you aren't married, now you say you got married in June?

Lose weight, dress differently - it's really not complicated.

Control is a form of abuse

It starts slowly - a subtle negative comment about your appearance & a "recommendation" that you wear something else, financial control, lack of open communication.

It grows!

PTSD will only exacerbate his habit of keeping things in & letting go with unacceptable personal comments - address it now!