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Bi-curious phase?

I'm 18 now, and I've been having really strange feelings since I was around 14. I went to a new school and had what was the equivalent of a girlfriend, at that age, we just really liked each other, and I was crazy about her. But at this school, there was this guy and he got me to rub his d*ck, dry hump etc. I had no idea what I was doing but at first I wanted nothing to do with it, but I got more and more "cool" with it. It has been escalating through the years to the point of where I find some male bodies attractive(only my age, and only a certain type). I'm at the point where I want to explore and try experimenting with guys like HJ's, but will never try sex with them.

Through this time, I've still always been attracted to girls. I'm in grade 12 and really like this one girl and we're going to grad together. All the feelings are there for her(which I haven't felt since I was 14). The guy who got me to touch him when I was 14, is now 20 and is completely "out of it" and wants nothing to do with guys anymore in that way. Will I be the same? It's scary because I don't know what to identify as, though when people ask me, I don't hesitate to say "straight".

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  • 5 years ago
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    It's entirely possible that this is a phase. People go in and out of phases, and while some are genuinely bisexual, some people are only attracted to their same gender for a short time.

    This is the part of my answer where I say that labels aren't really important; you are who you are, and you don't need to put yourself in a box for the convinence of others. But really, that's not too helpful. Some people find comfort in labels, and you can always change yours.

    Basically, if you prefer the title of straight over bisexual, then that's your decision to make. Will this interest in guys fade? Possibly. Or maybe you're bisexual, and you just prefer girls. Which is a very valid place to be, might I add. I, for example, am vastly more interested in guys than girls, but I still feel that female attraction. Am I bi? Certainly. I just prefer one over the other. Just be who you want to be. If you find that being full-on straight isn't really how you see yourself, call yourself bi with a preference, or vice versa.

    Anyways, I wish you luck with your decision. Don't forget that if you get it wrong the first time, it's an easy thing to just look at yourself a little closer, and find who you really are. Congratulations on finding the girl, as well. I hope I could help.

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