Free things for pregnant girls??

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Okay so there are two girls in my class that are pregnant. Today I heard that they get free stuff from our high school that everyone else has to pay for. They got free prom tickets ($50 each), a gift card for prom clothes, free graduation supplies ($80 per girl), & a free ticket to our class party (worth $40). 
I think this is completely stupid and unfair. We were talking about it in class. Some of my friends think it's super nice & it's just helping out the girls. Others, including me, think that it's s waste.
1) It's their faults they got pregnant.
2) with that comes responsibilities 
3) none of these (except he graduation supplies) are required. 
I can almost understand if the school just paid for just their graduation stuff, as it's required to walk across the stage, but everything else is voluntary & extra. They didn't have to go to prom & they don't have to go to the class party. And if they want to, they should pay for it just like everyone else.

What's your thoughts? Am I being a dick?

Anonymous · Answer

Don't point a judgmental finger of blame. Most girls your age get pregnant because their parents didn't teach them about sex and contraception. It's not "their fault", like you said.

Feel sorry for them. If they keep their baby, life will be so hard, this might be the last nice thing in it (a few free tickets). If they give their baby away, they will feel bad forever.

Compassion is for you, not them. You come across as bitter and uneducated. I know that's probably not right. Be more sympathetic, and grateful you are not pregnant in high school.

spunk113 · Answer

Look at it this way--these girls are going to be spending a small fortune on diapers, baby food, baby clothes.  They're not going to be getting sleep for the next couple of years because they'll be trying to take care of babies AND go to high school.  Statistically speaking, they might not even finish high school, and there's a good chance they'll wind up on welfare because they're less likely to attend college or otherwise escape poverty.  While some teen moms do manage to be successful, it's not the norm.  The freebies are probably incentive to help them stay in school.  If that doesn't make it easier to handle, then consider it a way to let them have a few good times before winding up with the statistically likely life of poverty, drama, and misery.

? · Answer

Is the school paying for it? or is there a community organization helping take care of some of their expenses? If it's the school, I agree that is unfair to other students, IF the only qualification is that the student is pregnant. It is different if the school has a fund to help students who can't afford sports/activity fees to participate. I've been involved in a band boosters group that raises money to help band students go on band trips, buy clothing for concerts, rent instruments, etc., if they can't afford them.

LJ · Answer

Why is it "their fault they got pregnant" and not the boy's fault???

It takes two people to make a baby, you know.

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