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How does one stay present?

Hi, I'm a shy guy with only two friends. This is something I've really had trouble with: How does one stay present in a conversation. In my head, most of the time, I feel like I'm two steps ahead in or two steps back in a conversation. Especially when there's a group. Groups overwhelm my mind a bit. My mind just feels scrambled. Can anyone relate?

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  • 5 years ago

    Pay attention to what people are saying. Think completely of them. Stop allowing yourself to make comments until they pause. Instead, try to picture in your head what they are relating. Find a way to value their opinion and they ll really start to gravitate to you -- because you are saying, without words, that hey are valuable and interesting -- traits every person loves.

  • 5 years ago

    You are probably an introvert and don't do so well in groups. We tend to prefer one on one conversations. Try to focus on one person and what they are saying and what others say to them.

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