How can I get a guy to like me?

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I'm 18 and in a few months I'm going to university and I've never kissed, dated, or even held hands with a guy. I've been asked out once in 9th grade and I've been cat called before a few times, but that's the end of my "love life." I've had a few crushes where I sent them strong telepathic vibes of "ASK ME THE HELL OUT," but surprisingly they don't work. I act kind of shy because I am plagued with social anxiety, but once you talk to me I open up a little if you aren't an asshole and my friends tell me I'm fun to be around. I have the mouth of a sailor sometimes. I dress nicely. My friends have told me that some guys were flirting with me or liked me, but I was completely oblivious to it! Some of my friends have told me that a couple guys are a little afraid of me, but I don't see anything I could have done to make them feel that way. I try to be nice to everyone. So my real question is how do I get guys to approach me? How do I know when someone is trying to flirt with me? How do I flirt? Also how do I make the first move?

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4 things.
1 social anxiety sounds like a whole lot but it is nothing more then the natural boundaries that keep you safe and close to your parents as a kid and have to be widened as you become an adult
2 the groups of people you meet at schools are way to random to guarantee a mate. College is a little better but hobbies and jobs function more like pre-selection methods cause you share interests and skills with them.
3 Mouth of a sailor, but dress nice? That is perfect because it shows who you are, wich is important to know and it keeps away people who cant handle it plus the winner doesnt get a sloppy dressed chick with BUM on her ***. 
4 that people are a little scared of you comes from inside. You must have natural authority. Thats something you cant change and the other one just has to like in you.

There are billions of people on earth and your one and only is somewhere coming closer every day.  
Be yourself and don't settle for less than perfect
You are perfect S U R

Rhonda B · Answer

Always flirt with your eyes, they are the window to the soul and have a language all their own. Make eye contact, notice if he is looking at you. Look away and look back over at him, is he looking at you? Did you catch him looking at you? I will tell you like I have told my daughter, get up and go hand him your phone number on a sheet of paper if you are afraid to come out and talk a lot, that will say it all. YOLO, "you only live once" you cannot be concerned with the one that you could have at least tried to catch. Remember when you give them your phone number, you then have left that ball in their court and as I tell Loryn, so what if they do not call.... at least you put yourself out there and you do not have to wonder about why he didn't ask you out or come and speak to you! Remember, many guys are shy too, sometimes it tasks a special woman to make her own move, and believe it or not most men find this a turn on that a woman approached them!

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