Why do women expect their men to be perfect?

Not all women go for perfect men. For me, its personality over looks. If they've got an amazing personality and look half alright then thats good. However, this isn't the case for everyone. Smart women tend to look for smart men for instance, because they have something in common. If you have absolutely nothing in common then I'm afraid after a whole the relationship wont last that long, in reality. You could also be seeing some women with high expectations, but they do not ( and i emphasis DO NOT) speak for the whole female population. Most women find an Imperfect man, fall in love, and love everything about him, his eyes, his hair, his body, even his flaws. Nobody else has to see him as perfect, but in her eyes, he is. The definition of a perfect man doesn't exist, but ask different women why different men are perfect, you'll get a different answer every time, I bet you.

But don't give up finding your soul mate, you'll find him /her one day

It is highly unlikely that you're doing anything wrong and very likely that you're meeting women with high expectations. As you noted, many successful sistas won't settle for a man who isn't established himself. But being established is one thing--expecting a perfect man is another.

Men and women typically enter relationships with their own expectations and ideas about how it should work. Instead of fully discussing similaries, needs, and expectations early in the dating game, many couples sit back and observe the natural tendencies of their partners... waiting to see if the other person will meet those expectations. This isn't a bad strategy, but it rarely works in real life. A man can't be anything and everything to a woman, and it's unfair for any woman to place that burden upon him.

When looking at the aspects of relationships (communication, attentiveness, intimacy, support, kindness) women usually focus on quality, not quantity. They can also have a short memory. So, if you take her out to dinner and buy her a dozen roses today, it doesn't mean you'll get away with kicking her dog tomorrow.

Be especially wary of women who want more than they're willing to give. If you feel that she's focusing too much on the number of gifts you buy, you might want to consider dating a different type of woman.

It's because women are expected to be perfect as well. Which is ridiculous. Women see men on TV and want that. There's nothing wrong with searching for a perfect man but most of us realize that it doesn't exist.

Women expect men to be perfect because of Hollywood. Those actors seem perfect but in reality they're not. Women need to realize that nobody is perfect and when they find the right guy it won't matter if they are perfect

you're meeting the wrong women lol. i could say the same of some men who expect giant breasts and an amazing bum with hide hips and yet a slim waist and totally flat stomach and absolutely no stretch marks. she has to have super long dark lashes and full lips (now, not too full) and she has to have perfect cheekbones, and cook and clean for me, if she doesn't do this thing in bed for me she's useless and i can't wife her---do you see where im going???? that long list you came up with that you've heard from various women (over the internet, irl, wherever) can be matched by an equal list i, and other women, have heard from various men (over the internet, irl). but unlike you, what i realize, is a good guy wouldn't demand i have all of those qualities, just like a good girl won't demand all of those from you. be the best you that you can be and you'll find someone, but also remember that if you're looking for women in an environment that = snob, that's what you're going to get. im not going to a frat house to meet a prince.

Well girls are raised from a young age to expect the perfect guy with Disney movies showing women being saved by them to "chick flics" with overly romantic and way too high expectations. If a woman expects her man to be perfect needs to realize that impossibly high standards have a very low chance of becoming true.

But not ALL women expect a man to be perfect. In fact, there's not a lot of women who expect this. Most are perfectly happy with someone who's delightfully quirky or has flaws that make them who they are. Having someone who's perfect can seem great in theory but it'd be awful to constantly worrying if others are flirting with him or if you can keep up with how great they are.

From a guys point of view I'll give my honest insight on this without trying to be sexist.The description of women I'd say you're describing comes from two backgrounds...urban and high income.They'll work out until they're blue in the face to keep their body tone but won't dare touch a push lawnmower,pick up a bag of garbage,or anything of physical labor.They wax their bodies every week.They judge the value of a person on style and brand of clothing a male wears as well as car and income.Women from rural areas aren't like this because they were giving a more wholesome upbringing and a solid work ethic.They look deeper into the ideal of finding a good man to be a husband or father versus materialistic things.

OP I'm sure that things have been happening to you recently that have caused your very dramatic post. Take a second and look back at whatever this situation is that made you feel this way. For me personally I understand that it is very hard not to project an opinion that covers all of women based off of one annoying thing or another that my girlfriend does. Be that as it may, I would disagree that women are looking for things like that unless they are immature or spoiled. And yes many times it is the other way around where it is the men who are looking for a perfect woman.

I don't expect a man to be perfect, really they only need be caring, honest, hard working and have some intelligence about them. Who would want perfection it's incredibly boring you have to have some flaws to make the relationship interesting. Looks are not always the first thing that I look for in a man, not saying that some women don't.

Because some women set their standards a little too high which is fine but also a little shallow. It comes off like they think they deserve that perfect man because they think they're too perfect to be with anyone else less than that. I don't know some ladies just can't see themselves with anybody that doesn't look like a sexy celebrity or have brains like the top physicist or body like a godess.

I stopped dreaming like that when I turned 16! I'm 23 and I found my not at all perfect man which makes him PERFECT to me!

Perfect for ME doesn't necessarily mean perfect for the next gal. I think it's reasonable to not settle for less than someone you're attracted too because otherwise you just end up as roommates, but what's attractive to me is personal and individual, as it is for everyone. You'd better believe that I won't waste my time on someone who doesn't make me laugh, btw Jay Leno does not make me laugh. How can you get through the tough times if you can't laugh together? I won't settle for anyone dumber than me or we won't get along and definitely we have to have similar values and attitudes to finance or the project of lifelong mutual happiness and security will flounder. Sure, we should all look for a perfect fit, but to do that we need to know ourselves. Do you know yourself or do you think you want what TV, the movies and the internet tell you that you should want? If the fundamentals are compatible then all the peripherals don't matter. If you find yourself dissatisfied with the little things something much bigger is off kilter.