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What is my sexual orientation? Is there anyone else like me?
I am an 18, almost 19 year old female. I have only dated men my whole life and only had sex with men. I have made out with a few girls here and there as dares. But as I've gotten older I've realised that the idea of falling in love with a girl is more and more appealing, or at least I'm curious about it.
BUT here's the thing.
I would love a female, and make out with a female, and maybe let a female do sexual acts to me, but I would NOT ever want to perform sexual acts to another girls genitals.
I would date a transgendered person. But I just don't like vaginas.
I definitely lean towards men because of their masculinity and comfort but I feel like I could find that with anyone..
What does this mean?
Thanks :)
14 Answers
- 5 years ago
You are not abnormal at all. Chances are you are probably straight. I have been a lesbian all of my life (59 yrs) and have been with many girls (when I was younger) and women that were simply curious and wanting to just experiment a bit. Girls, women who enjoy the intimate hugging, kissing, caressing, like some best friends do, but they back away from anything more intimate like sexual gratification. Since you said that you have no interest in the deeper sexual aspect of pleasure with another woman (ex: oral sex, or penetration with a woman), you would not even be considered bisexual. Bisexual women generally enjoy having sex (the most intimate sex) with men and women. Women especially, develop very close bonds, friendships, even "girl crushes". They enjoy being playful, touchy, and feel a much stronger emotional connection sometimes that cannot be felt with a man. It means nothing, males and females are just different.
So steer clear of labels. Have fun just playing with your girlfriends and boyfriends and enjoy whatever makes you feel good. Later in life, you may or may not discover that you like or want something more intimate with a woman, that is fine too. Don't waste time worrying about it. You'll know.
- 5 years ago
Sounds like you don't have one, and that's good. Because labels are for jars. Sexual orientation labels are mostly stereotypes which most people don't fit into.
- Anonymous5 years ago
So you experimented a little ...Labels are just that. Sounds like you are as normal and curious as the next person.
Only most people won't admit it. Go with what you feel. Who cares what anyone else thinks. You sound pretty interesting to me.
- 5 years ago
You can be curious and thats it, we all have intrusive thoughts and its up to us to let them pass. These thoughts are frightening and can be sexual or physical thoughts of actions we never wish to commit. There is a saying I think it goes something like this. Don't leave a man you know and love just because your curious about another. You can be bored or something we both don't fully understand. Best of luck. God Bless
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- RPLv 75 years ago
Right now, never having had the experience or an urge for it, you think you could "not perform sexual acts" with another female, but, with the right partner, you might discover you have the ability. It is up to you, and a willing/consensual female, about whether you will allow yourself to be put to the test. If you do, odds are you will pass with flying colors.
- 5 years ago
im 16 and i feel the same. I like having sex with guys but would makeout with girls and do nothing else. I havent heard about other girls who thought like this until i read ur question. Guess we're just different lol
- 5 years ago
Your probably just going through the experimenting stage, maybe you will tirn gay or bi but for now just enjoy playing around 😊 Its toally fine that you dont wanna perform sexual acts to girls 😊
- Anonymous5 years ago
There's only one right way to be intimate with another person, and that's if their the opposite sex.
- Anonymous5 years ago
Sexuality is a social construct. The ancient greeks and romans had no sexuality and had sex with anyone of whatever sex. This is why they were remembered for their wild orgies.
- ?Lv 75 years ago
If you have to name your preferences, it's likely bisexual. Why worry about it, you can enjoy the pleasure of a highly sexed young man's penis, with vaginal sex, and in the same mix, he can perform oral on her simultaneously. That works too, in reverse, giving you oral while penetrating her with orgasmic bliss. Seems pretty hot to me.