How do I deal with a relationship that never happened?

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I was super close to this girl almost three years ago and I developed feelings for her. The thing is, she never knew I liked her as more than a friend because I ended up cutting her out of my life before my feelings became super serious and also because I realized that she never really cared about me as a friend or as anything more. I ve had trouble moving past this because there was this one period in our relationship where it seemed as though she liked me back. I know this because she used to send me good morning and goodnight texts and if you read them, the content of the messages are a bit too friendly. In other words, it seemed like she was flirting with me. Anyways, she was the first person I ve ever had feelings for and I still to this day don t understand why she acted like that with me. I feel like I need closure, but I know I won t ever get it. How can I move past this?

Also, a mutual friend of ours is throwing a party tomorrow and she might be there. I don t know what to say or do if she s there. Any tips?

J. C. · Answer

I'll be blunt. you will not really get closure until you put in the effort to meet new people and get feelings for somebody else. it's very easy to get feelings for somebody else- the difficulty is choosing a good person for your affections. So you have to meet new people, and get to know them and decide if they meet your standards. You have your self-esteem tied into your feelings for her. To unravel it, you need to start doing something so you can grow from the experience and build up that self-esteem and confidence. 
Physical exercise is good for that because you can start to see the results quickly. learning a musical instrument is also good. talking to every girl you see is a good start. watch the youtube video "science of natural game", the guy basically explains how to decode the reactions people will give you when you talk to them, so you don't waste time trying to have a conversation with somebody who isn't interested, and you can focus on the girls who show the signs of interest.
Good luck.

steph · Answer

Just act cool act like she's just another person from your past this feeling will pass and who knows you might meet her at the party and realise your feelings are now gone

Anonymous · Answer

You really make no sense. First you say she didn't care about you as even a friend then you say she was flirting with you. Obviously you incorrectly assessed the situation as well as how she felt about you. If you do see her at the party you should just tell her you made a big mistake and tell her how you really feel about her.

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