My mom gets upset when I go to my dad's house?

i would just say mom you know i love you and i only have one mom i mean you gave birth to me but im also growing up and becoming a man so now i just want to hang with my dad and bond over guy stuff and you should know that even though i visit dad no one can take your place in my eyes

Your parents were together a long time. The wound probably hasnt healed for her yet, so try to be understanding.

Every other weekend isnt that often, think of how your Dad feels going from being with his child everyday to only every other weekend, it hurts for him too.

It is unfair for your mum to make you feel guilty for loving and seeing your Dad, it puts you in the middle and this isnt okay. Your original attitude of 'deal with it' is a good attitude to have. You're 16 and youre not a child, this is a difficult transition for you too but its your decision to make at the end of the day, not your mums.

You arent leaving her, youre with her every other weekend and all week too. All your dad gets is 2 weekends out of the month. If anyone should be resistant or upset it is him. But like I said, try to understand she probably just misses your Dad too and there is resentment because they split.

Do what you feel is best. If your mum is being resistant, try to ignore her and she will get over it in time. You shouldnt have to feel this way. GOod luck

I'm sorry for what you're dealing with. Unfortunately children of divorce are sometimes made to feel as you are. At this point, I would say your mother has to work thru her individual feelings without regard to your actions-- there will be much more to the situation than you are aware I suspect. Do what you feel is best and maintain both relationships-- keep close with your father and sensitive to your mother. But if either make you feel like you're 'choosing one over the other' or 'guilty' then confront it in a sensitive and adult way. With many of my friends, they found they had to act more adult during/after their parents divorce than the actual parents. Just remember everyone's carrying an issue on their back but don't sacrifice your relationship w/ either parent-- those are their issues to work thru. Good luck!