My roommate got a puppy without asking me?

She has NO right to have OR keep this dog, and you do NOT have to put up with her irresponsibility. Period. End of. How do you bring it up with her? Simple. Sit her down, tell her outright - either the puppy goes or YOU go. Don't sugar coat it. Just get it done. Why?

1) She VIOLATED a LEGALLY BINDING CONTRACT - that alone is enough for the landlord to BOOT HER to the curb. Possibly look into further legal action, as well, especially if the puppy damages anything. If you keep her secret in the mean time, you may also find yourself in trouble for ALLOWING the puppy to stay. Again - the landlord could boot you, or worse.

2) She also went behind your back AFTER you told her "no more animals" and AFTER you told her you where going to be bringing your dog (who does not violate the lease) in. That is RUDE and DISRESPECTFUL. What kind of "friend" does this? Not a good one. What else will she ignore? What else will you have to worry about with her?

3) She is clearly not being responsible with the puppy: leaving it alone to howl all day (which annoys the neighbors who WILL tell the landlord), not picking up it's waste (which is disgusting and ruining the carpets and WILL result in not getting your deposit back), etc. YOU should NOT have to put up with ANY of this. What if the puppy does some more serious damage? Like chews the wall, furniture, etc? What if it eats something bad, and has to be brought to emergency vet?

I, personally, would not have let the puppy stay at ALL. The minute i came home to see it, it would be GONE. The lease alone would be enough for me to demand it be re-homed. I certainly wouldn't put up with it being left alone all day, or with it's waste not being taken care of.... DISGUSTING. I also wouldn't want to stay with someone who could and would s blatantly go behind my back like that. It's not like she brought home fish, or a hamster....

Just don't get mad at the puppy. It isn't the puppy's fault. If your roommate hasn't signed the lease with you, tell her to move. If she is on the lease, there isn't much you can do. She sounds like she is a horrible dog owner. A puppy needs a lot of attention, and for her to leave it alone so much of the time is a sorry life for a little puppy. I would lay down the law and tell her to give the puppy to someone that will love it and care for it properly.

OK, right off the bat, you need to make a decision: 1) Talk to your roommate about the fact that she is violating the lease and that if she does not get rid of the puppy that you will report it to the leasing office or 2) decide that the new puppy can stay. If you decide to tolerate the new puppy, the best thing for the dog is that you have a DETAILED discussion with your roommate about how to raise/handle it. She should have asked you, that is indisputable, but if the damage is done, and the puppy is staying, there needs to be some serious talk about what the rules are in the apartment and how the two of you can make this the most manageable.

1) She absolutely needs to be housebreaking this puppy. Anytime the puppy pees/poops indoors, it must be IMMEDIATELY taken outside and given a treat for being outside (even if they don't do anything out there). The puppy then associates urinating/defecating with being outdoors and being given treats. Otherwise a strict schedule is going to be the most helpful in terms of housebreaking. Young puppies must be let outside every 2-3 hours daily. Typically they will have to go out after a) waking up b) 20-40 mins after eating/drinking and c) after periods of heavy play. A potty schedule is going to be very predictable in that way. The puppy will absolutely NOT understand if it is in any way punished for an "accident". In their mind, they just relieved themselves and are inexplicably in trouble... this will lead to them hiding any time they need to pee and/or holding it excessively before having an accident. Crate training will also be really helpful in establishing a schedule.

2) If your roommate is out often, please talk with her that it is ANIMAL CRUELTY not to take a puppy out consistently at this age. If crated, a puppy will hold it until they can't any longer. This can lead to urinary tract/bladder infections that can be very painful or simply a soiled crate that is unsanitary. If you are able to help take the puppy out, please step up. I know you didn't ask for this, but an animal shouldn't suffer just because your roommate is sporadic and inconsiderate.

3) If the puppy is frequently barking/whining, you can try covering the crate with a blanket or sheet. Covering the sides will make it feel more like a den/cave which instinctually dogs would seek out in the wild when they need to rest. You should also make sure that your roommate is providing the puppy with appropriate chew toys when left alone (during which time the puppy should ALWAYS be crated... it prevents him/her from being destructive and helps with housebreaking) If that doesn't help, try turning on a radio or the television on low volume to try to serve as a "white noise" type thing.

4) Picking up animal feces can be a concern for both people and other animals. Puppies this age typically carry worms and the chances of worms being transmitted to other animals (and yes, even people) is likely. It's just negligent not to pick that up... especially indoors! Gross!

5) A puppy needs to eat puppy food. Filling up on adult food is not only annoying for you, but is detrimental to the puppy's help. Puppy food has added calories and nutrients that help facilitate growth and development. So in short: it's bad for you/your dog... but its even worse for the puppy! Please try to explain that to your roommate. If she's not getting it, try feeding your dog in a separate place (like your bedroom maybe?), don't leave food bowls out except at specific feeding times, and create a "safe zone" for your dog to play with toys where the puppy is not allowed. This can be a dog bed/corner of the room/etc. Anytime the puppy gets near that area to steal a toy, firmly say "no" and walk them to another area of the room. Give them a treat. Repeat until it is clear that there is a boundary. The important thing is that, just saying "no" or yelling at a dog doesn't teach them anything. They get that they're in trouble... but they don't understand what you want them to do.

Anyway... it is NOT your responsibility to train this puppy. If your roommate is not willing/able to take care of this dog, I STRONGLY encourage you to show her this post, have a discussion about your concern, and see if she is willing to take on everything involved in training a new puppy. This absolutely needs to be an in-depth discussion, both about how you're feeling and about how this dog needs to be trained. Neglecting its training really dooms this dog! So talk about it. If she's unwilling to change the training and manage her new pet, I would report the dog to the apartment complex. Definitely tell her that you plan on doing that, so that she understands her options.

In terms of rehoming... please try to rehome to a friend or family member first. Only as a last resort should you rehome to a stranger. I would even try a rescue or a shelter first. At least there, they will fully vet the puppy and usually spay/neuter as well. That's really the best option that any puppy has of finding a home. If you do rehome to a stranger, please charge a rehoming fee and be diligent in asking questions. It would be incredibly unfortunate for a puppy to end up in the hands of an abuser/dog fighter/breeder/etc.

I hope this was helpful. Thanks!

Tell your room mate that if the puppy doesn't go, she goes. Tell her that tomorrow the puppy will go back where she got it, or to a shelter.

Re home at hume shelter. Show her lease.

Kick her out if continues to cry.

Tell her to get rid of the dog or you will kick her out. That simple.