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Borderline personality disorder? 10 points!!?
I have a loved one who was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder two years ago. Her relationships with past boyfriends have always been super intense and chaotic, they never last long and she ends up feeling suicidal. She is 23 years old. I was wondering will she always have intense relationships with others with this this illness? It seems like ongoing... Some days she feels suicidal shes been on antidepressants for a couple of years and therapy but she reverts back.
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- ?Lv 65 years agoFavorite Answer
I have Bpd, and yes she will carry on this way, she doesn't mean to but she can't help herself, she will feel guilty for it.
She does it because ironically she is scared of abandonment, so pushes people away if they get to close.
It could also be apart of her self harm.
Most with bpd will use drugs, sex, relationships as a part of that self harm.
If you are still friends with her. don't take it personal, they lash out because they want to be close to you but also want you to abandon them, even though they don't want you to abandon them. Very confusing I know.
Not all BPD s are the same either.
Reddit has a good forum on this
BPD I use it alot as they are v.helpful.
They need reassurance, if you said:
you were going to the shop for milk you wont be long.
They think you are leaving them, they don't think, yeah we have no milk, fridge is empty, we need breakfast and coffee.
They think its an excuse for you to leave, you are upto something and going because they have done something wrong
Source(s): They are scared l, and feel emotions intensely, and paranoia when stressed. - PersephoneLv 75 years ago
Without treatment...no, there's not much chance that she will have any satisfying, stable relationship.... romantic or otherwise. Therapy is the only treatment for Borderline. If you want to understand it better there are leagues of books..... I Hate You, Don't Leave Me is a good one... so is Stop Walking On Eggshells..... You can probably get them for a few bucks on Amazon.....
- !@#$%Lv 65 years ago
Not looking for the 10 points though I do feel for your love. In all honestly witnessing and having hands on experienced with individuals with mental disorders I can frankly state that if your love one stops taking her meds or attending treatments it will affect everything around her including relationships...I had an ex who manipulated "Bipolar" behavior to his advantage !! Sadly but the horrible truth...It sad to say, to see or be part of and am not sorry to say it !!!
