Trying to decide if its really time to go..been married for 10 years?

If you're done, then you're done. You don't need a "legit reason" to leave.

Even if he's atoned for his mistakes, it's perfectly reasonable if you're just worn out and don't care to be with him anymore. You don't have to forgive someone who's abused you, taken advantage of you, made mistakes, etc. Even if he apologizes, even if he changes his ways, even if he treats you like a princess from now until the day you die. The past is still there - and if the trust and love and respect is gone, then it's gone, and nothing and no one can get it back for you.

You don't have to stay just because you've been married 10 years. You won't get a medal on your deathbed for "sticking it out."

You don't have to answer to anyone else except yourself in regards to your own happiness ... you staying in a miserable marriage (even to an absolute prince of a guy) only affects YOU, not the naysayers. For all the people who might say, "You should honor your marriage vows" or "Your reasons for leaving aren't good enough" or "He's a good guy now and you need to forget about the past" ... well, do they need to live your life? Do they need to deal with your thoughts? Do they have to experience your unhappiness? No, right? So their opinion doesn't matter. Would you really suffer through an unhappy marriage just because some random person thinks you don't have a "good enough reason to leave"?

If you think you aren't yet ready to leave, then enroll in personal counseling first, and book a marriage counseling appointment and ask him to attend with you.

If you want to start getting your ducks in a row to leave him (and I recommend that you do this whether you're sure you want to break up with him or if you're just considering it), go see a divorce attorney and learn what you'll need to do.

You 'can' leave if you choose. There's a difference in "can't" and "won't". If you want to stay, then stay. Maybe marriage counseling would be a good place to start, to try to rebuild the trust.

It took me a long time to figure out what I wanted and that included a lot of therapy. If you can't figure it out maybe you need to go talk it out so that you can work on making up your mind.

So, you stuck with the guy when times were bad, and now that he is genuinely trying to do better you want to go? Am I the only one here who thinks that makes NO sense at all?

if y0u stuck with him f0r the t0ugh times why w0ul d y0u want 0t cut and run n0w that things are better? keep in mind that ten years have g0ne by, and y0u have this man in y0ur sexual histpry r0ster t0 add t0 the 0thers..y0u may be past the physical prime y0u wer ein bef0re s0 it might be t0ugher t0 find s0me0ne else.

als0 what is financial abuse?

Quitting takes no effort. Your husband's effort should be met with some of your own.

If you say you love him, you may want to give him another chance. You may also find marriage counseling helpful. I just said a prayer and I hope you’re able to make the right decision. Hugs to you!

It is time to go IF you have exhausted all possible avenues to reconcile. I say this because it may come back to haunt you if you don't.

are you aware that you didn't state even one reason why you should go?!?

What is happening in your marriage to make you want to leave? Not enough information.