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? asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 5 years ago

BF dumped me over a silly thing, told me never to contact him, three days later he called and wanted to be friends, why?

So my boyfriend dumped me the day I moved back to uni (he is at uni here too) And he dumped me just because I couldn't talk on the phone as I was in the middle of watching a film, he told me it was over and to delete his number.

I tried calling a couple of times to reason with him but he just told me to leave him alone. A few days later he called me and asked how I was and was checking I hadn't done anything stupid, I asked him if he was still mad at me and he said "well I'm still your friend right?" i said I wasnt sure, we continued to talk on a civilised manner about general stuff not the relationship.

After the conversation I haven't messaged him or called him.

I have him on my FB and stuff still but haven't heard from him since (in a week)

Is it best I just continue to not contact him? also why does he want to be my friend so soon after breaking up? Is it just to ease his guilt?

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  • lorelei
    5 years ago

    He is either insanely needy (only you can know if he is), or there is another woman and all this is an act. And the ''being friends'' thing is ALWAYS just so they will have you on the side during a dry spell. Call him right now and tell him you are not going to be his friend. He doesnt get to decide what you two have. And he was ''checking to see you hadnt done anything stupid??''? Is this jerk so arrogant he thinks you will kill yourself over him? I would delete and block him from everywhere, and then go out and have fun with friends

  • ?
    5 years ago

    He dumped you because he thought he had a chance with some other girl, but she turned him down. Wanting to check that you "hadn't done anything stupid" meant you hadn't hooked up with anyone else. He wants to be a single guy at uni, but still have you as a backup, for when he's not getting any.

    (Also, it doesn't matter, since it's not really why he dumped you, but it's ridiculous to say you "couldn't" talk to him because you were watching a movie. Obviously you could have -- you just didn't choose to.)

  • ?
    Lv 7
    5 years ago

    He used this as an excuse to break up with you so he could be single. Period.

    He is contacting you because he wants to make sure he has you in the wings so he can pretend he has some semi-girlfriend and maybe a side dish sex partner as back up.

    He does not care about you.

    Delete him off facebook and move on in your life.

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