Need advice about GF who is getting married to someone else. What should I do?

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I can not provide all details. I tried to write it down for more than 18 times so far from past 10 hours but couldn't explain.
I loved a girl online for 7 years and never was able to meet her. She loved me for 2 years, and 2 year after that she was confused whether to love me or not and then she broke up before 3 years. From that day till 12 Sep 2016 I tried to make it work but she never returned to my life. On 12th Sep she told me not to contact her anymore as she is getting married and my whole situation got fueled and my world is on fire right now.

I can't not make anyone explain what has happened. I even don't know myself why it can not work. I am not a bad guy, I never cheated. I don't have any girl in my life and from 3 years I tried everything I can to make it right and make it work. But by the time she left, she was completely different girl, a bad one.

As I can't save it, as I can't move on or love any other girl, as I am not over her and as I am completely alone in terms of love and friend. I just don't know what to do anymore or to deal the fact that she will be someone else's wife and I will never have her.

I am blank... I don't feel... I am not crying, nor sad, nor happy or angry... I feel like I am dead inside... All I can think of is a miracle which will make things right between us. What am I supposed to do?

Note: Please read carefully before advising. I want you to know my mentality and situation. Please HELP!

??? · Accepted Answer

False hope is keeping you invested. You need to convince yourself that this relationship is never going to happen. There will never be a miracle that makes things the way they were. There's no time machine, and this fiance of hers will never be forgotten, even if she doesn't marry him. This woman - as you said - is not the same woman you fell in love with, so the relationship would never work.

Whenever you think of her, tell yourself, "She's changed. We're different people now. The relationship would never work." Then purposefully focus on something else. A hobby, a chore, something. Keep doing it.

It will take 3 or 4 weeks, maybe more, for you to stop thinking about her regularly. One day though, you'll realize you're daydreaming about something else, and you'll be surprised--and so relieved! Plus, you'll have a ton of stuff that got done or that you got better at, making you a prime candidate for a new relationship with a better woman.

Best of luck. I know it's hard, but you'll make it.

♠ Merlin ♠ · Answer

She is marrying someone else
its awful, but you need to accept that
she moved on long ago
the time for miracles is long gone
sorry

Anonymous · Answer

You said you loved the girl online....basically you never met...am I correct?

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