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My girlfriend of 4 years recently left saying no chance of reconciliation but now says she needs time to think, 1-2 weeks?

My long-time girlfriend and I have a son together. The son may not be mine, but I do not care. He does look a lot like me, but one of those knock off at home DNA tests says he isn't mine. Anyway, when we would fight about something and I would get really mad I would call her ugly names, and she felt like I didn't spend enough time with her and our son. She has even made it out when I say that I want to be apart of his life, like I haven't been apart of his life at all despite providing for them and making sure he had everything he needs. She says that she needs time to think. I just stopped yesterday with calling, texting and driving by the house where she is staying (at her moms). She has kept all the flowers, cards and letters that I send. She said right now (saw her yesterday when I stopped by trying to see my son) that right now she is thinking she doesn't want to try and she finds it hard to believe that I am changing my ways when I won't respect her wishes and not contact her and let her think. I do know she still loves me and cares, otherwise she would not keep the cards, flowers and letters I have sent. I know there is no other man, she isn't like that. When she got pregnant was when we first met, and our sons due date was exactly 9 months on the button from the night we slept together. But we both had been told by doctors that we could not have kids. Sound like she will be back? I have faith and believe she will be.

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  • 5 years ago

    Also, just wanted to add that some things she says, like when I wrote in the last letter that sex didn't matter to me and I would wait for us to be married, she said that was stupid cause we have already done it and neither of us are virgins. She really mad it sound like I just need to give her the 1-2 weeks to think. When she said right now she is thinking she doesn't want to try I told her that I didn't care what her mind is thinking, I know her and I know her heart and I love her for her heart as well and that I know her heart isn't telling her the same thing her mind is. She didn't say anything to that, but just kind of gave me a look.

  • dolly
    Lv 5
    5 years ago

    You have apologized, sent cards, flowers, letters and tried to visit your son. Stop trying to make contact with her! After awhile she may change her mind and get in touch with you! Let her anger settle down! You have done all you can do for the time being. If she does not come back to you she was never yours from the beginning! Time away from her may heal her indecision and anger toward you. She needs her time and space away from you.

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