Why can't I find the one?

Start with things you really love. If it's art then join an art class. If it's sports then do something sports related. You also could volunteer somewhere to help people. Very nice guys often can be found that way. Habitat for the homeless is in lots of areas and they build homes for families that are homeless. No special skills are required to help out. Good hearted guys volunteer with them. Good luck.

There is no such thing as "the one".

No one is perfect and neither is any relationship. And no matter who you get together with, there are times when you want to hit them over the head with a frying pan.

BUT if you want the marriage to last, you deal with your OWN pain/anger/annoyance/fear .. and treat THEM with dignity and kindness regardless. This IS what "for better of worse" means.

As for happiness . .no one ends up any happier in a long-term relationship than they were before they met their partner. This is because happiness is a state of mind and comes only from WITHIN your mind .. how you work with your thoughts and emotions.

And the more you expect someone else, or anything outside of yourself to "make" you happy, or to fix your unhappiness for you ... the more you will be disappointed.

As for "similarity" .. don't put so much stock in it. Having stuff in common is worth ONLY 2% of what makes a relationship work.

Theoretically, if BOTH parties are sufficiently emotionally mature, kind and honest, and WANT it to work, they can build a great marriage. It takes about 15-20 years for any couple to figure out how to make it work.

So stop thinking in terms of "the one". There is no such thing.

Yes, guys have baggage. Guess what ..EVERYONE has baggage of some sort. What matters is who much self-honesty and courage they have to FACE and resolve their baggage. This can take decades, btw.

As for finding a genuine guy .. I hear you.

When you are beautiful, you attract the superficial guys who are only interested in your body. And the genuine guys, who are not as attractive or conceited, are afraid to approach you for fear of being rejected.

Being beautiful is a curse for finding love.

So focus on getting to know guys as PEOPLE, rather than as dates. Stop hunting for "the one" and instead try to become whole and happy in your own life ..even getting therapy to help you figure out the tools to do this.