Boyfriend doesn't want to spend Christmas with me.?

I suggest you make alternate plans for Christmas and when he returns, run as far and fast as possible.

hey thank you for answering my question. would have been nice to get a bit more but thanks anyway. as far as your question here I am a guy and I do not understand why women do not understand that men need time to themselves sometimes to clear up their heads? its overwhelming sometimes and romance is not the first thing on our mind when we are under so much pressure. Support him in his time alone. And whats up with you Americans and your children owing you money? How capitalistic. You'd think its not a family but bank. I won't be surprised if he was charging his children interest, which explains why he has these problems with them.

And what are you asking then? Are you asking for permission from complete strangers to abandon him and his emotional baggage? Swell. You have my permission. I don't know you and don't care what you do. Have a ball.

he faces an emotional crisis every holiday. and as you said having problems with his family just adds to the crisis. not meaning to sound harsh, but you are being a bit overboard about this. he needs time. let him have some.