Is my friend a little too accepting of her boyfriend?

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So i have a friend who just started dating this guy. I was all excited for her, knowing how lonely she was and how she needed comfort from her insane and abusive family. But, recently she's told me about him and now I'm not so sure about this guy. 
Evidently, he's 20 years old, uses a fake ID to buy alcohol, smokes weed and is constantly between jobs. He isn't stable mentally, as she told me he frequently gets panicked and has outbursts of anger if she even mentions a male name. I guess he about had an episode when she was talking about me (I'm a girl but I go by Kris), and she had to reassure him that I'm a girl and not gonna steal her away. But then she'll say how 'cute' he is, how much he must love her already, how amazing he is to be around and how she's willing to overlook those 'minor' imperfections, as she calls them. 
I don't know... Maybe I'm looking too much into this. But is she too accepting of him?

Doug H · Answer

You see the warning signs, the red flags (the drugs, the mood swings, the jealousy) but she doesn't probably because of what you said, "thats lonely she was and how she needed comfort from her insane and abusive family."  Of course you could become the enemy to point the red flags out to her but you should be prepared to talk to her and be her support when she starts to see the red flags and comes to you for answers to "what should I do" you also may want have your place prepared for her to come at some point when she feels that she won't be safe at her place.  Trust me, the time will come so you need to be ready.

? · Answer

She does seem to have low standards for who she'll have as a bf, yes. But it's not really your place to judge.

Patricia · Answer

It's not your problem.. obviously she knows what he's like because she told you.  Let her handle it....

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Is my friend a little too accepting of her boyfriend?

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