Adoption vs abortion?

The two options don't need to be pitted against each other, they are BOTH valid choices. Yes, adoption is a wonderful thing for many children and families... but far too often in the debate of abortion rights, people will say "you can always just put it up for adoption" like it's as easy as going to the pet store and picking out a goldfish. It's presented as the perfect option, yet completely ignores the potential medical and psychological risks to the woman, the expense of adoption, as well as the often complex reality of being an adoptive family/adoptee.

Even in your own case, it was not simple. Your parents had the money to adopt a child from overseas... not an option for all couples. Many Asian countries have also put limits on foreign adoptions to Westerners in recent years, and Americans face more challenges adopting from S Korea than when you were little. There have been some pretty scary cases of child trafficking with international adoptions, too. Also, because of the nature of your adoption, you may never meet your biological family, which means you know very little about your family medical history. You may be young enough to not care about that now, but someday you'll wish you knew what inheritable conditions you are at risk for. It's *wonderful* that you grew up in a family where you were wanted and loved... really, it is. But adoption is a complicated issue. It doesn't always end neatly tied up in a pretty, perfect bow.

No one says adoption is wrong; but the people who are actively against abortion are often also against adopting other children, so...

I'm not really sure where you're actually actively hearing constantly that "children" should be aborted. You can't abort a child and most abortions are done in the first 12 weeks or pregnancy when it is in the fetal stage.

Abortion is an option for people who DON'T WANT TO GO THROUGH WITH A PREGNANCY, for whatever reason. Giving a child up for adoption does not solve this problem.

Your experience as an adopted child is not the same as other children. Just because you're loved and happy, doesn't mean other children in the system are too. Some children never actually make it to a family in the end, and are tossed around in the fostering system instead, which still needs to be worked out to ensure these children aren't being hurt.

Honestly, you're sounding quite self-centered. You think because other people are giving the option and at times, recommending an abortion, means that these people wanted you to never exist. You think because you're happy, the other children are probably happy too.

Maybe it is a cultural thing because I've never heard anyone (besides hateful trolls) say that abortion is a better option than adoption.

The problem is that it is not always an option for every woman to go through with a full term pregnancy even if she would prefer to put her baby up for adoption.

They don't want you dead, but they think being dead is a better option than being given up.

They think it's worse to adopt than to abort.

I would rather the person be adopted than aborted. I can't imagine even thinking of aborting, no matter the circumstance. But, I seem to be the only one on the planet who feels that way. Pretty much everyone is all for abortion. I don't get it.

I'm glad you're alive.

How cute, but you've never been pregnant and had to face the choice so..