Adult daughter. thinks that I am bad mother when I have had to get two D.V. and R.O. against her for hitting me.?

She is 32,did the hitting and attacking when she was high and drunk. That's her excuse--oh I didn't know what I was doing.I know she has tremendous resentment against me,as I was a practicing alcoholic in her younger years but have been in recovery for many years now.and am a good Mom now.She did these attacks years later to me,obviously holding old resentments. I have told her I did not hit or attack you--I am not the bad guy here--you are--you HIT me! She acts and says I'm the wrong for pressing charges against her. And to top it all off, her father agrees with her. How do I deal with this--what do I say to her? It hurt so much emotionnally when she hit me and physically too, So to stop her from doing it again and again I felt my only choice was to press charges to stop the cycle. I love her very much ,and forgive her .Can she ever realize she was the perp and I was the victim? I want to have a real relationship with her,but that seems impossible.Again, I say I love and forgive her.