My 23 year old son fault in everything I do that's positive or when I get enjoyment out of life.?

tell him exactly that he has no idea what hes talking about and its about time he got his head out of his ****.

That its about time he grew up .

I mean i think thats kind of terrible too. Autism is not that serious, if he's able to walk and doesnt have an extreme fear of planes or heights or things like that then he should go with. A lot of autistic kids are super nice, you know you son better than i do from the 6 sentences you provided but could it be possible that he's just acting like its alright with him because he doesn't want to be a burden?

Youre oldest son sounds like he's on a high horse, like he's cocky. Like he doesnt respect you. He's 23, thats how you raised him, its too late now, he's his own man. So talk to him like he's a man. Tell him he's wrong if he's wrong.

What is the matter with you? Why do you care what he thinks? Did you let him run all over you when he was living at home? A lot of women are so insecure that they let any man boss them around. Tell him that unless he's willing to take care of his brother, he can keep his opinions to himself.

Its him, not you. Sounds like life isn't going well for him, not much positive. Just be pleasant and generous with your love and friendship.

tell him you need some time for yourself, you've earned it, you need it and you're going to take it. and if he feels so put out about it, tell him to take care of his brother while you're gone. give him a taste of the hard work it takes. don't let know-nothing people make you feel guilty about your decisions.

make him stay home and care for the younger one.