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Girl is confusing the hell out of me?
So, I was talking to this girl, a friend of a friend. We got to talking and she eventually talked about her past, and I talked to her well into 1 in the morning. She says she told me a lot more than she's told anyone, and trusts me a lot. It's kinda strange. And since she has a boyfriend, I kept my boundaries. But recently she confessed to me she has feelings for me. She's way out of my league, and I don't know why. I also feel guilty because her boyfriend has been nothing but nice to me, and even thanked me for helping her out. What do I do in this situation?
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- 4 years agoFavorite Answer
Since she's with someone else currently, I would put some distance between you and her right now. You don't want to be the reason that they break up.
- Anonymous4 years ago
You do nothing.
For two reasons:
(1) Any girl who will reach out to another guy when she has a bf is NOT a girl you want for yourself. She will end up losing her passion for you and start sending out "invitations" to other men. You do NOT want a girl like this.
It would appear that she is NOT "out of your league" at all .. that she has very little relationship-value.
(2) It is just wrong to try to pull a relationship apart.
Morally wrong, and our self-esteem arises from doing what we KNOW is right.
Lastly, talking all night, trusting and telling more than you tell others .. these are good services you have provided. It is caring about her as a fellow human being.
But it is NO indication you could or would form a relationship with her, and it is NO indication you would be happy with her. So STOP making this into some personal selfish need.
If you have trouble remaining platonic, trouble with your own possible physical lust for her of psychological neediness .. avoid her.
She is not doing anything to confuse you. It is YOU, trying to bend reality to fit your own needs, who is confusing yourself.
We all do it sometimes .. and some of us fight it off better than others do. The less you fight it off, the more you are dealing with delusion and harder reality will bite you back.
