Seeing each other, no relationship title?

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When you start out, you just "see" someone, basically dating. But how long is too long for this to drag on?

Basically I have come to a point where I have been dating/seeing this girl for 4 months now. We only see eachother and spend 4 days a week with eachother. So in my eyes we are together. I mean, throw the "in a relationship" title on it, and it doesn't change a thing, but it would just feel better to have it there.

However, she doesn't want to name it, and wants to just carry on how it is. She hates labelling things. I don't understand that. I mean, she's said to me that she is only seeing me and we are together she just doesnt want to label it. So whats that all about? I'm trying to figure this out. Like, if someone asks her if shes in a relationship she says "no im just seeing someone". Which means i have to do this also. But how long is too long and why does she not want to label it? We do everything that a couple does, so it just makes no sense.

? · Answer

Apparently, you've asked her to be your girlfriend huh? She doesn't want to give you a title which tells me she's unsure of the relationship. Since you seem to really care about her, you may want to calm her fears by reassuring her you like her and you're not up to no good. She may have had a prior relationship that blew up in her face because titles were misused or misplaced. In other words, someone meant more than the other and there was hurt. My guess, she's afraid History will repeat itself and she doesn't want/need the pain. This is most likely what's happening here but as you get closer, she'll let down her guard more.  Good luck and hope this explains it.

Pink Glasses · Answer

This should be a little concerning. People usually say they aren't into labelling when they don't want to commit. She doesn't want to call you her boyfriend so you should probably figure out why that is

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Seeing each other, no relationship title?

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