Have you ever had a real loving perfect relationship where the romance was there and you just feel happy and secure and loved, comfortable?

Yes, I have had (and I still am having) a relationship like you described, but perfect? No, there's no such thing. It's truly close, loving and wonderful, though. There are kind and loving guys out there. And the best part is that you don't have to be perfect to have a loving, truly faithful and romantic relationship. (That's impossible anyway, and it's exhausting to keep trying.) You just have to find someone who is really compatible and shares your values. Look for someone who loves to be touched and touch you if that's your "love language." Make sure you are with someone who is kind, affectionate and makes it safe to talk about what's on your mind. (Notice - I have said nothing about looking for the perfect, gorgeous man.) If those things are in place, the love, closeness and romance just fall right into place. Good luck, and don't get discouraged!

So...here's the thing. There is no such thing as perfect. Seriously. Get that romance-novel shyte out of your head right now, or you're forever going to be upping the bar and your standards, which I'm also assuming are impossibly high.

I'm 100% in love with my husband. I feel secured, loved, cared for, adored, worshiped, and I make sure that he feels the exact same every day. Do we have icky days? Hell yeah. Do we have days where we don't do anything? Hell yeah. Do we have Taco Bell then 8 minutes of no-frills sex? You bet. It's not all candle-lit dinners, chocolates, romance 100% of the time. Being in a good, healthy relationship is about trust, honesty, the little things, NOTICING the little things, and laughing with each other every day.

BUT, this is my and my hubby's dynamic, no one else's. This is what works for US. We are the best of friends and love doing everything together. We also KNOW that we change and will change over and over again. When you get married or get into a relationship, many people expect that person or themselves to just STOP growing as people; you don't. You both grow. In order to stay together, you accept it and grow TOGETHER or you're doomed.

I stopped trying to be perfect for my man a long time ago. I can only ever be me; klutzy, loud, obnoxious, crazy ME and he loves all of me; everything I am and everything I am NOT. I love him for everything he is and everything he's not. I make myself happy, myself healthy, and I love myself and that right there is great in itself. Be happy and love yourself first. The rest will follow, I promise you.

The problem with the storybook romance is that it doesn't exist. It's a highly romanticised version of a relationship which is almost impossible to find and expecting anything less would only let a person down. Nobody is perfect, no relationship is perfect, but a healthy relationship works through the issues it faces and both partners are happy. There is a lot of cheating in this world, that happens. A lot of people struggle with monogamy. The only thing you can do is take it on the chin, leave them if they cheat and find someone else (or remain single until you're ready).

Yes. When you get it right its wonderful feeling to achieve that. Its doable and anyonew can achieve that. Its about finding the right women to start with.Finding the right ones and eliminating the bad ones.Its about finding women who are compatible with you.Look for qualities,look for compatibilities and look out for the warning signs.And look for women in the right places where they're likely to looking for real guys like you.

Try reading these books:

1)"A Man's Guide From Frog To Prince:a woman reveals dating secrets every man should know." By Susan Young.

2)"How To Approach Hot Women".

By Cooper Newman.

3)"Understanding Women". By Romy Miller.

4)"Are You The One For Me?" By Barbara

De Angelis.

5)"Falling In Love For All The Right Reasons."

By Neil Clark Warren.

6)"Date Or Soul Mate". By Neil Clark Warren.

7)"Hollywood Dating Blunders:rules,questions and warning signs to avoid the bloopers". By Jim Carroll & Dennis Foose.

8)"Booby Trapped.Men Beware.The Dirty Seven Sisters". By June Marshall.

9)"Undercover Sex Signals." By Leil Lowndes.

10)"The Complete Idiots Guide To Handling A Break Up". By Rosanne Rosen.

Those books cover everything you need to know.They are still available new and second hand.