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I am 23. I never know why the question is "what do women want" I really give my all I aim to look the part and be the ideal woman. It's beyond infuriating when men tell me I am wife material or smart or great but I am still unwed it's sickening. I look alright. I've been told I am really attractive but whatever. None of those words matter when my slutty and in my opinion not that smart peers end up married with children. These women lack substance they just show off their bodies and get pregnant. A lot of times they end up just hooking up with guys. Meanwhile 😐 me lonely gonna be some cat lady. I am not looking for sponsership I want a real thing to blossom. Guys my age are just ridiculous and sadly some older guys want to act like them (I guess the freedom and opportunity) but I would like a guy maybe 10 or 15 years older who is ready to settle down what should I be doing to attract these men. And also it drives me insane seeing these spoiled brat women who use thier men. I have never donw that I usually end up giving more than I ever get in every area and still turn up short. Please any advice. (I have taken time to work on myself but in the mean time I need to figure what I am doing wrong) Thank you And no I don't want to start being trashy idek why that is who gets the gold people literally have told me they cheat on their boyfriends like it doesn't matter like ugh it sucks. I also am not like a judgey prude I just don't agree with some of my friends antics.

I moved back home and am starting college again this coming fall. Since last July I have been contemplating vandwelling. My family however is strongly opposed I wouldn't tell them anything or at least I shouldn't but I did and I am getting lectures about how when I am older I will want q house. For me I don't want anymore student loans. When I start school all the money I would waste on an apartment can go towards my education. An education they keep forcing down my throat. I am not opposed to school but when I have to work just to go to school just to pay for some dumb place that I only use to sleep and shower. This isn't helping me. I want to have freedom which I don't have. When I did live on my own all I did was work two jobs and pay bills that isn't a life I want to live ever again. But no one gets it. They want me to be a slave to work and buy a house that I will work to often to ever even enjoy. Literally if this is not what I want why are they dead set on making me live that life. It is my life after all. Anyways please give advice. I am really getting to the point where I will just go away.

I am gonna color my hair. So I have been natural since I was 16. Well that was the last time I had chemical straigtener. Anyhoo I chopped colored chopped and now I am just at a crossroads I was big on doing extensions I love mixing it up. And I do them myself so that is great for showing my work. But now I don t even want to wear extensions that match my texture ex. Crochet braids. I see some really cute styles and yea that is great but tbh it is so lame how when I wear extensions my compliment meter goes way up and opposed to when I don t wear extensions. Which is my main purpose of stopping wearing them. Now usually everyone is all like "your so pretty" "omg you look great" "where are you from" and then when I wear extensions "wow you re sexy" "what are you mixed with" "wow is that your hair" anyways my point is wearing extensions makes me feel like I am less attractive without them so I have ditched them totally. And this last salon I went to they keep saying I have to cut my ends every four weeks so whenever my hair gets past my neck they are saying trim time. They did that twice and now idk so any other naturals have you expirienced this how do you slay your natural without being annoyed by outside influences.

I am a struggling Christian at this point. I don't really get it. I grew up in the church so I should but I don't. I'm not sure if it's because of the strictness or what. But I always lived by the rules and it isn't getting easier. I did fall of the wagon after highschool but now I am back at it. I am abstinent and sadly all og February and this past Sunday I missed church because even though I asked to be scheduled off I keep working Sundays it's upsetting. On top of it all I keep having fantasies and thoughts about other women. It upsets me because I was able to supress those feelings for years and now it's just overwhelming. If I masturbate which I haven't I will be sinning. But I am really frustrated. Lately when I am not at work I just sleep. And I know that's a sin also when I could be doing college apps or working on career stuff. I just feel drained and everything seems pointless. But I can't enjoy myself because I feel bad and honestly I want to intimate with someone and that guilt is stressing me out. Idk what to do anymore.

I think conversion therapy still exist. But my issue is I am meant to be a straight Christian woman but I for so long am super attracted to other women. It's bothersome. Like my dreams are now just filth and I want to get rid of these thoughts and feelings. I've never dated or been with a woman so idek why these thoughts are becoming more frequent. Especially now that I am abstinent it's getting worst. Please help.

Like sometimes it is every little thing. And I just want to have quiet and people looking at me or being near me just is irritating like "eww can you not" everyone tells me that stuff shouldn't effect me but it totally does!

Here is the plan: Major Architecture Major 2 Landscape architecture Minor Interior Design I don't mind doing the work my ultimate goal is to have a full range of land development and design. The time and effort won't deter me. I need to be busy. Tips and advice?

I just want to be sure. Whoever answered my last question thank you a ton. That's the most straightforward answer. I would just like to make sure I have flexibility in my work. Also since landscape architecture is different what is the major difference? Thank you all so much.

Ultimate goal is to be so busy I won't have time to be depressed. And I took one of those test to pick a career and landscape architecture was the job that I liked most on the list and when I was a kid architecture was my first goal job then journalists. It's been a greuling and stressful process but now I know what I want to do. But how can I put the three things into my six years of college?

Not to sound unfrateful but I know plenty of people who had full great lives who are dead. Meanwhile I am annoyed at everything. And I am not enjoying life and I am still here suffering. My mom for example was loving and patient and kind and successful. And she dies. Meanwhile my worthless trash dad gets to live. Tbh I am getting more angry every day that my crap life gets crappier. Exactly what is the point? And I imagine if I were to be happy again it would go away like always. As if I actually start having some success I would probably just die shortly after.

At this point I am going insane. Celibacy is great I feel fine but this not "fixing" the problem around my cycle is driving me insane. As a Christian I shouldn't lust or fo things selfishly but like what gives. I should just marry someone so I can not be in turmoil (oh but then it probably will turn into divorce another sin) I am becoming a disgruntled person. I am fine with not having intercourse but this "feeling" is making me mad.

When I was a kid years before I got my first real kiss I would have "crushes" on other girls eventually when I was 16 or 17 I started dating aside from that first longterm relationship I have had no success the guys either just want sex or are kind of crazy controlling or try to pressure me into things ex. Having a baby anyways as I was raised in a strict Christian home I never acted on it. Since the Devil has rule over the earth could I be being punished for not falling into the trap or simply for ignoring it. It's something I still battle with. Please be kind I have heard all the "it's a fairy tale" I just need some clarity. I must be a rotten person or was and I just need to know why my life is such crap. I know it could be worst I could be ill or disabled or starving but in this moment I need to not be so sad.

I am a lady and we do need some equality but is that what we really want huh huh is it 😐

I can't seem to have a decent relationship. I've given up to focus on my career and mental health and to get in great shape again. But I wonder has anyone ever been in a beautiful storybook romance. I kinda just want to hear some hope or at least know I am not alone. I guess at this point it is probably me that is the issue. I have always tried to be perfect but I get nothing it makes me sad because I know women who cheated all the time or go out getting drunk and sleeping around these women are married. I guess by today's standards I am a prude and I am okay with being alone I guess. It's better than being miserable or miatreated.

I work my butt off. I am kind and respectful to everyone. I get mistreated scammed and abused and yet I still keep trying and I get nothing in return. I do believe in God but I don't underatand why I get to suffer. Am I paying for my dad's sins because if that's the case I can really start being a scumbag because people who do awful things get away with it and get everything