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Nathan asked in Social SciencePsychology · 4 years ago

i have to give a presentation on monday?

i have social anxiety ibe never been so scared all of my life, i have to give a presentation in front of people who doesnt like me very much the scariest part from having to present is eye contact its so scary to look people in the eye it feels like i want to pull my eyeballs... what should i do if i have a gun i wouldve point it to my head and pull the trigger oh my god i just cant do it , a lot of people tell me just to look at the audiences hair but still i cant do it because my face still look very nervous... you know when i make eye contact it feels like my heart want to explode and i when i see ther eyes widen and the uncomfortable expression in their faces i just feel like a joke. i just cant get away from it because they will think im a coward but please help me i need to get calmer tomorrow is the day

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  • Anonymous
    4 years ago
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    I'm trying to think what the best one single tip I could give you out of all the things I want to say about this, that's going to benefit you the most...

    Ok so firstly, make sure you are prepared. Focus purely on the presentation and fine tune it so that you know exactly what you've got to say, when and how. You might even find that moving all of your attention on presenting to perfection, the way you're going to practice over and over again no until you have to do it for real, takes away the fear of the reactions from those you're presenting to anyway. Focus on giving the presentation in a structured way so that you don't have the worry of forgetting what to say or what comes next etc. Another really great, albeit basic, technique I learnt in my sales career is consciously slow everything down. When we're nervous, we start rambling, our brain struggles to process our thoughts properly and then you forget what comes next and it all starts to go wrong, and the more that starts going wrong, the more nervous you get and it goes round and round and round. Start with your breathing, manage it consciously and keep it controlled and don't rush to get started. Think about how you're presentation starts and then do the same with your speech...consciously speak at a slightly slower rate than usual. That way, you're brain can keep up and you'll find it easier to follow your agenda.

    Try to take away the power of the fear of things going wrong. If you're life isn't at stake, then it really isn't worth worrying yourself sick about.

    Good luck!

  • 4 years ago

    Knowing what your presentation is to be would help giving council about how to handle the situation.

    If what you wrote is any indication of how you would be in front of a crowd, then you have a right to be nervous.

    Have you tried taking speech or public speaking lessons?

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