My old neighbor needs to kick her good for nothing son out of the house. But she scared.?

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My old neighbor is like a second mom to me.   She has a son (only child) who is 54 years old and has not worked in decades.  I found out years ago that he has been living off of their retirement income for the past 20 years.  He had an apartment, and they paid for that, his car, phone, food, cable, clothes... basically everything.  This loser in turn could not even come over and cut the grass, or lift a finger for them yet they still paid his bills.  in fact they had to wait for him to give them the bill before it would get paid and he could not even manage to do that. 
Long story short..  He was evicted from his apartment because of his behavior.  His parents, didnt know what else to do and invited him into the house.  got him a job under the pretense that once he gets an established income, he can go get his own apartment (without them co-signing this time).  since he has been in the house he drinks, gets angry, shouts and screams at them.  She is afraid of asking him to leave because she is worried what he might do.  Im not sure what to tell her at this point.. other than I told you so because i did warn about that before they took him in..   What should I say to her (them)?

Rosalie · Accepted Answer

Depending upon where they live, he may have stayed for long enough to require a legal eviction. They could have him removed by police if they would call for help when he is being abusive - especially if he is drunk- but in order to get him out completely, they'd have to go to court and get him evicted, or he could sue them.

They can go to the local Senior Services (sometimes a town agency), or Adult Protective Services (state), and ask for assistance in staying safe. Or they could consult a local family law attorney for help. The police can only remove him if he is physically abusing them and there is real evidence of that.

They will need more protection than a restraining order, if this guy is a mean drunk. He's going to be very angry if they try to scrape him off, and they need far more help than that.

Tim · Answer

Join a church and move a few people from the church to move in for a minute to run him out of the house.  Kick him out and have the church people keep an eye on things if old boy does bad get a restraining order against him and once he violates it one time he will quit.

Anonymous · Answer

There's nothing you can really do about this, because this is not your problem to solve. If your neighbour is frustrated about this situation, then she should be reaching out, not you.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to butt out and mind your own business

Maxi · Answer

You listen to what they say and don't 'offer advice' they have been doing this for 54 yrs and will continue to do it until they die, it is a habit and the son has also got into a habit of doing nothing and mummy and daddy pay

Lone Cat · Answer

You be a friend and listen to her problems.  That doesn't mean you need to solve the problem.  None of this is for you to solve.

Addition.

Normally an evocation takes 30 days.  But in the case of domestic violence she can have him evicted right away.  The best way to do that would be to hire a lawyer.

She's not going to hire a lawyer and go to court against her son.

infantry · Answer

Tell Nancy to just do it hit the road Jack don't come back no more no more no more

Anonymous · Answer

They should talk to a lawyer. They may be able to get a restraining order if they're scared. They NEED someone to protect their rights.

LAN · Answer

How is this any of your business?

Chloe · Answer

Kick the guy out asap. Be with ur neighbor so they don't get scared. That guy needs to get a job and a life!

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