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How do I stop being so socially awkward and continue conversations?

Hi, I usually don't post my whole entire life on the internet, but I'm desperate for any help at this point. So, I'm in 9th grade, going on 10th grade and I only hang out with this one group of people. They are probably the only people I can easily talk to at school and if they aren't in any of my classes, I won't speak to anyone else. I don't know how to make new friends since I had my depression, but I still managed to make 1 or 2 friends who are my friend's friend. I tend to avoid social situations if my friends aren't there because I hate the feeling of people judging me as lonely. I wish I could somehow wave my magic wand and become social, but I can't. In most of my classes, I'm known as being the quiet one, but I can still answer people's questions no probably and only talk to people if I really need it. Whenever I try to have a conversation with a new person, I end up feeling comfortable if I look into their eyes for too long or just nod my head, pretending to know what they were talking about. And sometimes I end up not knowing what to say afterwards or what questions to ask. I'm worried people might think I'm boring. I find it much easier to talk to people younger than me because they find my awkwardness funny and they don't rely as much on the other person. I just want to know how I can change this because I want a boyfriend and I want a normal teenaged life where I can go to parties and not feel pressured

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    4 years ago

    With age, you'll get better at conversations. Trust me. You just have to keep practicing and it will, of course, take time. Remember when you're talking to someone, it's okay to ask questions and when you listen, ask follow up questions. People LOVE to talk about themselves. YOu may not have to say much in a conversation, but if you're good at listening, people will begin to like you.

    I was shy once too. Really shy. I'm in my 30s now and I talk to just about anyone. Not all day, everyday. But sometimes I'm in a mood to talk, so I do. Sometimes I don't know what to say in a conversation and it just fizzles out... that's okay! I was not put on this earth to entertain people. Just shrug your shoulders and move on. Sometimes you make a connection with folks and sometimes you just don't.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    4 years ago

    I wish I could give you a direct answer but I can only tell you my story because you sound like me at that age and it seemed like it wont get any better and I was extremely shy dealing with depression but as you get older you get more confident especially after high school.When I started college and became more independent and mature I realized most ppl aren't @$$holes like the mean @$$ kids growing up,and if they don't like me so what they dont live for me,once you stop caring what others think or trying to please ppl you will be more open/yourself,you will also realize you don't need a 100 friends as long as you have a good few.

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