Tomorrow is my birthday... should I text my ex and tell him?

Hello, Isabel!

Whether you opt to remind your ex-boyfriend that your birthday is tomorrow is, of course, up to you, but having knowledge of his tendency to forget--that it is consistent--why would you bother? The fact that he is lousy with remembering important dates like birthdays and anniversaries is not unusual; many people have this "malady," which either can be a mental facility he lacks through no fault of his own or that he tends to forget "on purpose"--a way of programming his subconscious mind to block out certain obligations that he has no wish to perform or honor. I experienced this issue with my ex-wife years ago--she is particularly sensitive about her birthday--and I came away from that contretemps realizing, as I ought, that women tend to place certain dates, like birthdays and the anniversary date of when they met their boyfriends and husbands, on a higher plane than most men. In other words, remembering those dates aren't as important to men as they are to women. I will submit this: If you continue to remind him that your birthday is near (or, for that matter, his mother's), you will in fact be enabling him to continue forgetting. Why should he remember if you insist on being his handy bellwether? He won't have to remember, so in a sense, reminding him only defeats the purpose.

Stop babying him. Let him forget (if he forgets) to wish you a happy birthday, then admonish him. After a few years of a presumably intimate relationship, he has no reason on God's Green Earth to forget your birthday so quit making it easy for him to be irresponsible. By the way, and this is just a thought: Unfortunately, his tendency to "forget" also says something of what he really thinks of you--something that I suspect you'd rather not confront. Think about that while you're hoping for him to return.

No, you shouldn't, and I know you know that really. You really WANT to, and you are hoping someone will give you the push you need to do it. It makes no difference if it is your birthday, if he wanted contact with you, he would make it. If you contact him, he will see it for what it is, an excuse to make contact, and then you will feel much worse when he ignores it. Even if you DID do it, and he responded, it would only be because he felt obliged to. Don't do it, it's undignified.

he doesn't care, move on

He might know this time. Either way, no you should not text him to tell him.

You could do that, but you might also wait until the day after. Then, you could tell him how nice it would have been to receive a birthday wish from him, but there was none. Perhaps this may stir him to something, but he's an ex for a reason and chances are he will stay an ex.

That would be childish.