People judging my relationship?

Question

So I’m 15 and my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 4 months. We haven’t done anything sexual except for kiss really, no nudes, no sex, no oral, etc etc because we both want to wait and feel we’re too young for that stuff and it’s just realistically impossible with our family and houses and stuff. My friends were asking how far we’ve gone and when I tell them we literally haven’t done anything they get all judgemental and call my relationship “g rated.” Are they in the wrong because it made me feel really bad ??

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They're not in the wrong- it's you who is in the wrong.

You are wrong because you should not care what other people have to say about your relationship.

Other people are ALWAYS gonna make comments. Jealous people, "haters" as you call them, people who are single and bitter, the "big fat friend", guys who make rude comments cuz they want in your pants, people who hate your race of people and dont want you to breed so they try to convince you to break up... all sorts of people will manipulate you to break up or to be unhappy with your relationship. People have all sorts of personal reasons for doing this, and agreed, most all of their reasons are BS.

But you need to stop caring what people say or think.

DO YOU, and be happy. If they diss you or say its "g rated" just smile and be like "Yeah, I'm Christian, so of course!" or if you arent christian just say "Awww, poor baby. Did your boyfriend make you sleep with him on the first night and not respect you enough to wait?  Aww" do the same thing right back to them. Stand up for yourself.  Its really not that hard

If someone wont respect you as you are, then they arent a friend at all

Cristina · Answer

You are doing exactly the right thing. There will be heaters, when you will do something what they wanted you to do, later they will judge you for something else, you can not satisfy everyone. Most important thing in relationship is being happy. Sexuality, nudity is not called love. You can wait until you are mentally and physically and of course religiously ready for such stuffs. Until then enjoy your love and let them hate

Anonymous · Answer

Surely you can do it in the bathroom... my bathroom also has no lock but nobody walks in on me when I'm on the toilet, showering or masterbating. I'm 15 and only started masterbating about a year ago but my parents understand that I need privacy and yours should too. Do it round your friends as well though if you want ( with him or not)

Drake · Answer

They will feel bad for saying that when they're older. You have a fine mentality about the relationship and don't worry about how fast/slow others think it should be going. For being so young, yes taking it slow seems best for the two of you.

? · Answer

You keep doing whatever makes you happy and comfortable. Just because others do things doesn't mean you have to. The people making fun of you are probably just jealous because you can be in a relationship and not have to have sex to stay in it. That just means you have a good relationship. Yes, they are wrong.

People judging my relationship?

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