My friend is starting to show inappropriate behaviour towards my boyfriend. What would you do?

Question

She's my best friend's older sister and was also friends with my older sister years ago until she started to treat her poorly and was showing inappropriate behaviour towards her boyfriend, too. In that case, she was obviously just using him. She would message him way more than my sister, and asked him to do stuff for her like drive her here, there and everywhere, and just things that somebody wouldn't typically go to a friend's boyfriend for. Just very much an opportunist. Anyway, she's started this behaviour with my boyfriend, to the point where it makes me kind of uncomfortable. He and I bumped into her gong to a concert and ended up all standing in line together, and it was quite cold out. So as he was holding my hand, she decided to go and cuddle up to him. Not in a super platonic way, but in a way that I, being his girlfriend, would cuddle up to him to seek warmth. It obviously made him uncomfortable but he didn't say anything because a) he's too nice/oblivious and b) he thinks we're really close. Then after that, she was texting him throughout the concert to come and stand where she was. And she's only met him about three times. I'm kind of uncomfortable because I know that she has a history with going for guys who are in relationships... I don't feel threatened and I trust my boyfriend wholeheartedly, but I know that he's too nice sometimes and can be very oblivious, and I do not trust her. What would you do in this case?

TheDeathCure · Accepted Answer

I would talk to him. The only one that really has control over this situation is your boyfriend himself, so you need to tell him if it's making you feel uncomfortable. Just say, look I didn't want to bring this up but I feel I need to (so and so), has a tendency to go for guys in relationships and as I've been noticing lately, she seems to have an interest in you, I trust you wholly but it does put me in an awkward position when she's constantly texting and getting touchy with you, so if it's no issue to you next time maybe you could just tell her to back off. 
It doesn't have to come across harsh, you're just making him aware that it does make you feel uncomfortable and hopefully despite being a nice guy he will realise this and get her to stop.

S · Answer

talk to your BF about her and let him know you are not that close to her and he can tell her to back off with your blessing. Best all the way around. The Bf will know what you want  and he can tell the  clingy  witch that he is not interested and it disgusts him to have her come on to him. Some people just need to have the truth told to them i n a blunt way. She sounds like one of them.

Anonymous · Answer

Um, I would tell that thirsty b i t c h to get lost and find her own boyfriend who will f u c k with her.

I know how scary and uncomfortable that can be as well. I don't have anyone who makes moves on my boyfriend like how this girl you know does, but my boyfriend is pretty obilvious and kind-hearted, too. My anxiety and low self-esteem doesn't help when I think he'll leave me for just about anyone else either. I never think I'm good enough for him, especially since he's always busy and doesn't really show me much affection. Though, he does talk to me every chance he gets when his schedule isn't packed.

Anyway, tell this whore to stay away from your guy. If she claims that you're just being jealous well yeah, you kind of are, but at the same time you care and are concerned about your relationship and that's understandable. She just needs to know that he is off limits.

Trending News

My friend is starting to show inappropriate behaviour towards my boyfriend. What would you do?

3 Answers